Hi Axel,
Maybe it’s your language again, but one does not usually contemplate the feasibility of an “open relationship” with a spouse and a person you described as like a daughter. But, I really don’t need to parse words when you obviously 1) have a thing for a woman half your age who quit as your employee because of it, and 2) are so wrapped up in it that you are having trouble seeing the risk of still being and touch and making the love more legitimate with an open arrangement. You’re all adults. You might also consider that all of your digital communications can be used against you in court when one or both of the women get mad / emotional / jealous / greedy / opportunistic / rightly outraged whatever words you would then use, and sues you for sexual harassment or divorce, or both.
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