The Problems/Fears/Realities:

1. He is now afraid of doing physical things he used to do. Not because he can’t do them but because of fears that he’ll be stuck out in the Rockies with the Boy Scouts and what if something goes wrong? (With him). Same with double black diamonds on the ski trails. That if he gets injured it would take longer to recover.

2. I now want to travel. He wants to wait until the last kid is out of the house. But then what about $$$? I say we have plenty of money for a weekend away at least, and then we have the conversation of “How much is enough?” I want to get on with it in case he really can’t travel one day.

3. Is it my imagination or is he getting crotchety?? Could be 20 years of marriage though, hmm.. What if he gets inflexible mentally??

4. I hate the “old man smell” you know what I mean, that most old men eventually get? Hasn’t happened yet, but..

5. When I think of the possibility of living without him for at least a decade of my life I cry.

6. Stupid things that make me want to die first ~ if he’s gone, how will I shut down his business, manage online accounts (he does all the finances online, spreadsheet, the works), upkeep the house, bumps in the night, maybe moving.

7. I wanted another child, but gave up that desire because now even I cannot imagine him managing that.

At his end I’m sure he thinks I’m hopelessly immature as he compares me to “a bottle of fine wine that gets better with age.” Not a compliment, buddy!!

But that said, if the age difference is ALL there is “wrong”, GO for it!! There are: addictions, being broke, personality disorders, cheating, much, much worse problems that some people can have.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Inky.