Irene, I just wanted to say that other people do understand and they can offer support and be there for you. What they can’t do is take away the feeling of loneliness on your behalf. When I felt like really sinking, I reached out to all kinds of people online and offline, trying to find something to grab onto that would pull me out, and I felt like nobody was understanding me. That wasn’t the case, however. I’m sure people did understand, but since the bad feeling just didn’t go away, I felt like I wasn’t understood. Sure, there are times when people just simply don’t understand or don’t care, but there are also those who have been through what you are going through and they know. The only thing that they can do though is to try to offer guidance and support, but that alone will never be enough. So in that sense, yes, you are the only one who can truly help yourself. That’s not a bad thing tough!