Thank you for all your thoughts. Being so confused about why I felt so desperate to have my space and sanctuary I started google searching and had a monumental find that made me cry with relief. I have a very introverted personality. I found a website that helped to explain why I need what I need to be able to function. My partner has an extroverted personality. Major clashes and misunderstandings was inevitable without respect for each others needs. The thing is I respected his needs but he didn’t respect mine. All I asked for was a compromise.
We talked about all this last night and he now has a better understanding of my needs and has said he is so sorry for letting me down but is still unable / unwilling to do anything about it. We both agreed in this case blood is thicker than water. He and his son are going to move out. He is totally devastated, says he has never loved anyone as much as he loves me and can’t imagine his life without me. The saying, You cant have your cake and eat it, keeps going through my mind. He even asked me could I help him with sorting out what to do for his son and I was so shocked and reminded him that I had come up with viable suggestions and he angrily threw them back in my face and I was not prepared to subject myself to that again.
So he is choosing his sons happiness and financial ruin (for both of us) over me. Part of me is devastated and full of fear for the future and part of me is relieved that I soon will be at peace with my inner turmoil and excitement of complete freedom for the first time in my life. Now I can cry.