Hi Margit,

There are so many uncertain things in life. It is just that sometimes they pass by and we do not realize it. For example, before becoming pregnant, it was uncertain whether you would become pregnant or not. You did not stress yourself so much. Can’t you go back to that time when you were making plans to have kids, yet it was not know how soon they would come? I understand you’d like to know as fast as possible so that you can make the necessary preparation to welcome the new life, but don’t you think two-three months are more than enough to get ready? You do not have to start thinking about it now. I understand you would like to reassure your husband and all the people around you, but this truth does not harm anybody. Maybe you can explain to them that you are still uncertain like you were before getting the very first news about pregnancy. Trust the fact that you will be able to handle anything that comes, you’ve got enough time. For now enjoy your life as you once did. The kid grows more healthy when the mother is happy.

I know it may sound silly, but every time I travel on an airplane I’m not sure whether I’ll reach the destination. I’m lucky the travel lasts just a few hours, but it is uncomfortable nonetheless. In those times I try to imagine I’m on a bus and I do not take any look outside. I look at the people around me, they look all safe and comfortable and so I relax a bit and go with the flow. So yes, these are what you may try to: imagine your situation is not that different to when you did not know whether you were pregnant, trust your doctors about the fact they will do their best and listen to people about their own experiences. I know it’s easier said than done, but also try to not look at your kid and dedicate yourself to the many other activities you used to enjoy. You’ve got time to deal with everything when you’ll arrive at the airport.. I mean when you’ll really know.

I know my example looks silly and I was lucky to not experience that much stress in life. However there are some people out there who go on the battlefront and do not know whether they will be back, people who are diagnosed with an illness and do not whether they have cancer or not, people whose company is starting to fail and do not know whether they will still have a job in the near future. I’m not sure how they handle it, but my guess is that they preserve hope, try their best at the things they have control of, receive the support of close friends or family and look at other people that experienced the same things.

I hope next posts will give you better insights and example.