Hi Sultana,

Thank you for sharing. It is natural for us to review our behaviour following a break up but in this case, I feel that some of your cautions are quite sensible. To offer to pre-paid cruise to someone you have only known for a month seems to be a very generous gesture and on top of that you will be meeting all of his family. If he is looking for a relationship while you are leaning towards a friendship (which seems to be the case), things may get awkard very quickly and being on a boat surrounded by his family is probably the last place you want to be. Also due to the distance, you may not have meet him face to face that often and going from that to seeing each other everyday can significantly change the dynamic of the relationship.

Based on your post, it sounds like you can use a break but you can do this on your own to have sometime to reflect on what you want to do next (rather than surrounded by strangers). It might not be a cruise in NZ but at least you can do it at a time of your choice (e.g. when your finances are better) and have a chance to focus on yourself, which is one of the best things to do coming out of a long relationship.