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  • December 24, 2014 at 2:58 am #69758
    purnita
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    Hi all I m a 23 yr ok female & had never been in a relationship till last year. Last year I met this boy at workplace and hit it off immediately.I always had the proposals for relationships earlier but never got into one. But this time without blinking an eye I said yes.
    Through this one year he had been a support and we never had fights becoz we understood each other so well. We had decided to get married in 2016. Initially my parents rejected it due to some horoscope issues but agreed later on. Few days back he said that he couldn’t continue the relationship becoz his dad is not approving. He wants to be friends but cannot commit.
    He right now wants me to focus on my career and leave everything on time.Though I agreed becoz I trust him completely but I am finding it difficult to believe that he z no longer with me. We were in long distance relationship from the starting and completed 1 yr in October. He z concerned about my career. With him it felt like he z the one god has sent and I still believe that if he z meant to be mine he will be. But keeping the hope is making it difficult for me to move on.pls help

    December 24, 2014 at 5:10 am #69760
    L
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    Hi purnita,

    You said yourself that “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” However, there’s only so much you can do. Give him and his family some time to come around and work things out, but don’t wait around forever. You have to do what you need to do in order to make you happy. Eventually, that could mean leaving behind the relationship. You can’t force anything, you can only give things your best shot and then let it be. Don’t torture yourself with images of what “has to be” or what “should be,” and just concentrate more on “what is” and knowing yourself. I think that knowing yourself is how you will figure out if he is really the one god sent for you.
    Hope I could help!

    December 24, 2014 at 12:48 pm #69772
    Adam
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    Hey,
    The more your force something, the more you’re going to suffer for it. Again, you said what will be, will be. It’s important that you believe that. By not accepting what you’re going through, you’re preventing other things, positive things, from entering into your life. The faster you accept this and let it go the faster you’ll begin moving forward again.

    Be strong, breathe and accept.

    thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog. Use it if you need advice.

    December 24, 2014 at 9:41 pm #69781
    purnita
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    Hi L & Adam
    U ppl are right. I decided to be friends with him thinking that I will be able to manage it and one day he will realise my worth and come back. But that is stupid of me because by keeping this door open I am closing all other doors to my success. I am an achiever and have lots of dreams for me and my family. I need to bring a formal closure to this relationship only then I will be able to live for myself again.

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