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    Cleo
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    I have two cats at home and they are very much part of our day-to-day life. One has not been home for two days which is very unusual. My mind is creating worst-case scenarios of what happened to my cat and then I feel a whole gamut of emotions – fear, sadness, grief, anxiety, powerlessness…you name it. I don’t know and I’m so distracted because my mind needs to know. I feel like I’m grieving for him as though he’s gone even though there’s a chance he could come home. Is it possible to feel sad and still go on with life?

    #74742
    Caroline
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    Hi, there!

    I know exactly what you mean. I experience this as well in many aspects of my life and it’s never easy – but you have to remember that nothing is certain in life. We can control it as much as we want too, and do the best that we can for ourselves and others but it’s okay that there is an unknown. If we knew exactly what was going to happen everyday, wouldn’t it get pretty boring?! I struggle with this as well, so you’re not alone! I try and imagine the unknown as driving your car… You continue to keep driving even though you don’t know what is ahead because you know you’re going to be okay and can trust the road ahead of you. Unfortunately people like us tend to overthink which causes unneeded worry. As for your cat, I hope he or she comes back safely. Keep an optimistic mind and know that there is a blessing in everything, even if you don’t see it right away!

    #74744
    Caroline
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    Oh and yes- it’s possible to continue with life! I always thought you had to be happy every single day to fully live. That’s not true, I think that there is some form of good in everyday if you look for it! When I started having trouble with anxiety, I felt like my world was literally crashing down on me. But you’re sadness is not a part of you, it’s just a feeling. Good luck!!

    #74749
    lisa
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    Cleo, I am sorry that your cat has not been around for 2 days, but you need to be proactive if you want to get him back.
    When a cat gets out, they become disoriented in their surroundings even if they can see you and you see them. Even if they are domesticated.
    You need to call him and he needs to hear your voice. You need to call his name morning and evening so he knows you are looking for him. To just sit back and grieve is not an option. Walk up and down your street shaking the bag of treats or dry food as well as making the sound of opening up the can.

    Have you left food around your home and called animal control? Have you put up posters for your cat? Even if he is an outdoor cat, you still need to do this. You should put things of your scent around your home as well.

    best of luck.

    #74753
    Cleo
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    Thank you all. By no means have I just been sitting and grieving. We live in the country and we’ve been calling, searching and doing everything we can to know of his whereabouts. Whatever the outcome I’ll know in my heart that I did everything that I could possibly do.

    Thanks Caroline, I’m a self-admitted control-freak and am often fixed on trying to creating certainty where there is none. Can’t I get my way just this once? 🙂

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