Dear tiredandfedup7:
I hope you do put your kids first, ahead of your mother’s needs. I do hope so for the sake of your kids.

As to your question: is it frowned upon cutting contact with (anyone)- frowned upon by whom? by some, I am sure.

My position: if your sister has been abused by your mom – like you have and still are- and if she wants to have nothing to do with your mom, and if she wants to protect her children from your abusive mother- I fully support you cutting contact with your sister so that your sister will be free from your pressuring your sister to continue to be abused. I will extend my support to you cutting contact with any of the other siblings who are trying to distant themselves from your abusive mother. For their sake.

anita