Grantg5 – Hello, I’ve come to find your blog and uplift you.

My belief is that love never dies, once you love someone and give them a piece of your heart it theirs to keep and carry with you. A part of you always lives inside of that person and a part of them will always live inside of you forever. Whether we acknowledge that or not is up to us.

It’s always good to be present and cherish every moment and every day that is given to us. Each life is precious, here today and gone tomorrow. That is why it’s always important to cherish each and every moment of your life. Most importantly, the people who seek you and want to be a part of your life, are the ones who truly love you and this are the people want to keep in your life forever.

Even though your ex is no longer in your life at the moment, there’s nothing wrong with telling her that you love her and that you send her a lot of love. I don’t see the crime in that. The best thing I can tell you is to stay positive and hopeful towards the future. It’s sad that there are people in our society that don’t have the courage to sit down and talk to each other like human beings and workout their difference. It’s immature. I’ve always admired the people who care to make their relationship better and stronger with each other. Long distance relationships never work out in the end from what I have observed, there’s something to be learned from that.

I will say that in the end, you always get back what you put in a relationship. If you abandon a relationship and throw your partner to the wolves ( this goes for anyone ) your relationship will cease to exist. You get nothing back from a relationship that is one sided unfortunately. The good news is that love exists in many places if you exude & radiate love, then you will attract that in your life. Life can be a crazy weird ride but if you believe in all of the possibilities and positivity to be had in this journey and want to have an abundance of love. You will attract that.

You are going in the right direction so far by staying positive and cherishing each moment given to you, very proud of you! I send you a bunch of love, positivity & light my dear soul.

Namaste;

E.

Dear grantg5:

Maybe your reaction of diving into zen fits with the fact that the majority of your relationships were long distance and that (it is a possibility, in my mind) your relationships were mostly about thinking, a mental activity in your own head, rather than an exchange of raw emotions and actions.

maybe you are more comfortable with mental activity instead of the physical emotion life, emotion as in energy in motion. Motion, action, movement of that energy.

You wrote that your ex gf broke up with you after three years “out of the blue.” I find it curious that you did not mention the WHY of her breaking up with you, that is, since it was out of the blue, were you not curious as to why? Were you and then abandoned such thoughts? Did you ask her?

This is an opportunity, perhaps, to learn how you operate. Zen is wonderful, a wonderful practice… but even that “in moderation”- that is, not as an escape from what we do have to deal with, but as a skill and practice for better living. Better living as in energy in motion, raw and interactive with another.

anita