Dear Logan:

how are you?
anita

Dear Logan,
first of all, sorry for my english. i’m still practicing 😛

i have a similar problem. i am chronically unsatisfied person (as my husband would say :P). i always find something to worry or be unhappy about. luckily, i’m aware of that, so i can work on it.

we can make baby steps. travel with our families on weekends (maybe just a little trip to get away from our daily routine), find a hobby as TheDaydreamer said. something to look forward to.

or, as may friend told me- write down every single day 10 things that you are grateful for. that can be little things, such as: sunny day, a smile of a stranger… it will be hard sometimes, but, after a while, we will try to see as many good things as possible.

i will start today 🙂 we can do it !!

Hello Logan – your story spoke to me because it’s so similar to mine from about 10 years ago – this restless question that kept coming up from within – what is this life about? is there any meaning to what i do every day? why am i doing things that don’t bring me joy? Those relentless questions kept coming until I had to do something about it. And I did. Today, I’m living the life I envisioned and built. I feel like I’m living with purpose.

Here’s an article I wrote about finding your true purpose: http://blog.omvana.com/living/happiness-and-positive-living/6-steps-find-true-purpose

If it speaks to you, and you’re really serious about getting more direction to the life you’re meant to live, do email me at saiisha@rocketmail.com. I’d love to help.

Namaste, Saiisha

Hi,

I am feeling rather unsuccessful and rather lost at the moment.

I am 31, living back at home with a dad who is closed off and I was made redundant a few months ago from a job I didn’t like, but it was a salary. My boyfriend of almost 5 years broke up with me about 6 weeks ago and I have very low self esteem and am an introvert.

I have had a difficult path to work and lost a lot of confidence in myself in not being able to get a great job or one that pays well and I had to do a lot of temping which I feel makes me a failure because I couldn’t secure a permanent job in the first place.

I am doing all the right things to make things better for myself. I go to the gym everyday, I go to counselling, I apply for jobs and I am trying to secure some volunteering. I am also working on some hobbies of mine, but I just worry I will always be stuck unemployed and living at home with a dad who can’t communicate to me. Plus I am 31 and desperate to leave.

I also don’t have a great social network as I have always chosen rubbish friends who have treated me badly so don’t have friends to spend time with.

I also find many of the people I meet don’t really care about much. I have always cared deeply about helping other people and will always try and volunteer where possible and do the best for other people as I particularly like helping young people but I haven’t met others who share these principles. That makes me sad and makes me feel like an oddity.

I am also coming to terms with an ex who perhaps didn’t really care about me for a long time, but I was so scared to acknowledge that that I stayed in the relationship.

If anyone has any words of wisdom it would be really helpful. Thanks for reading. x

Hey Logan,

Just wanted to start off by saying you are not alone. There are so many people out there who are feeling the same way you are feeling (including myself). Your inner voice is trying to tell you something – travel. If you can, definitely do so because you will be revitalize.

With that said, I want to share a quote with you:

I Was Dying

First I was dying to finish high school and start college.
And then I was dying to finish college and start working.
And then I was dying to marry and have children.
And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough for school so I could return to work.
And now I am dying…and suddenly I realize I forgot to live.

Life is short. Always listen to your inner voice. Keep us posted if you decide to go travel somewhere.

Best,
James
naturalignment.com

• This reply was modified 9 years, 2 months ago by James Ng.

Dear Logan:

My comment on your last post to James is regarding what you wrote in this quote: “I am aware of the fear and that it is an unreal emotion”- I don’t know personally of an emotion more real than fear. It is instinctual, in our genes, carried through million of years of evolution and very powerful. Your fear in particular has a valid message and maybe you are not listening to that valid message. One message that sounds valid to me is that you indeed may run out of money traveling and that indeed you may not find a good a job, if any, once you return from traveling and indeed, therefore, traveling may very well be a mistake at this point.

Reading your last post I think traveling at this point will be a mistake.

Fear is real and natural. It is there to alarm us to danger.

anita