Hi sanguine,

1. Something got lost in translation for Steph to suddenly get so angry with you. If it were me I would think that I’m being used for some cheap thrill if I had that kind of reaction.

2. Your wife is playing it cool. As in “I’m the cool wife”. She is PRETENDING to be “OK” with it and not come across as being in any way threatened by “her”.

3. The sudden unfriending/blocking DOES give her the impression in Steph’s mind that you WERE trying to hide her!

4. You cannot “clear your name” now. The only thing is to let time, time, and more time pass. Maybe, just maybe, one day she MIGHT feel like she was overreacting.

5. Why would you be so attached to someone who dumped you decades ago? And on FB I don’t chat, even with my real life friends. It’s OK to Message or post on their Wall once in a very blue moon, but we 40 something year olds have better things to do, don’t you agree??