Not that it actually matters but I have to say:

“To be told as a child “to be a rock” so to help everyone – that is so wrong for the child’s well being.”

With the provided information, we can’t possibly understand the context of the conversations that this was said to this child.
I assume you, Anita, know the difference between fact and opinion? Opinions like these are unfair and this is a perfect example of the kind of uninformed conclusions that some people are seeking to draw. Why so quick on the trigger?

Do you have children? If so, focus your assumptions on them. If not, my apologies as I realize, everything looks easy from your perspective.