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Courtney Deane is a freelance writer and editor for print, online and broadcast outlets, as well as PR and marketing clients. She worked to turn the deaths of her parents into something positive—her debut novel, When Happily Ever After Fails. Deane lives in San Diego with her husband, daughter, and rescue dog—her very own happily-ever-after. Order the bookVisit the websiteGet the newsletter. Follow on socials: Instagram: @AuthorCourtneyDeaneFacebook: Courtney Deane  TikTok: @CourtneyDeane YouTube: @CourtneyDeane

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How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss”

“Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.” ~Buddha

“I’m sorry for your loss” is a perfectly acceptable response…if I’ve told you I’ve lost my phone. In that instance, I can appreciate the sentiment, empathy, and authenticity of the phrase. It’s my loss and my loss alone. I know you can put yourself in my shoes and internalize what it would feel like to be without this critical device and, as such, the words carry weight.

When I tell you my parents are dead, though? Maybe not …