Posts by Vanessa Heuser

Vanessa is a Life Coach who helps people connect with what really matters to them based on their values so that they can love the life they live. She blogs regularly at happywithlife.com.au and can be followed on Twitter. In her spare time, Vanessa is either off running somewhere on trails around Melbourne or riding her bike.

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Create a Kinder Mind: How to Stop Your Mean, Hurtful Self-Talk

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens!” ~Louise Hay

In my quest to learn to love myself I did therapy, read plenty of self-help books, and took personal development courses, hoping I could learn to love myself like I could learn accounting.

This was all helpful; however, when I reached the self-talk stage my progress came to a standstill.

Before then, I hadn’t consciously realized that I used powerfully negative words when speaking to or about myself. I was the first to put myself down, the first to …