30 Ways to Improve Your Mood When You’re Feeling Down

“The secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” ~ Anais Nin  

When I was eighteen, I got depressed and stayed depressed for a little over a year. For over a year, every single day was a battle with myself. For over a year, every single day felt heavy and pointless.

I have since made tremendous progress by becoming more self-aware, practicing self-love, and noticing the infinite blessings and possibilities in my life, but I still have days when those familiar old feelings sneak up on me.

I’m not always self-aware, I don’t always love myself, and sometimes I agonize over everything I don’t have or haven’t accomplished.

I call these days “zombie days.” I’ll just completely shut down and desperately look for ways to distract myself from my feelings.

I suspect we all have zombie days from time to time. I think it’s important to give ourselves permission to not always be happy, but there are also simple ways to improve our mood when we’re feeling down.

Everybody is different, and everybody has different ways of dealing with pain, but if you’re looking for suggestions, you may find these helpful:

1. Step back and self-reflect. Whenever I start feeling depressed, I try to stop, reflect, and get to the root of my feelings.  

2. Reach out to someone. I used to bottle up my feelings out of fear that I would be judged if I talked about them. I’ve since learned that reaching out to a loving, understanding person is one of the best things I can do.    

3. Listen to music. Music can heal, put you in a better mood, make you feel less alone, or take you on a mental journey.   

4. Cuddle or play with pets. I have really sweet and happy dogs that are always quick to shower me with love whenever they see me. Spending quality time with a loving pet can instantly make your heart and soul feel better.  

5. Go for a walk. Walking always helps me clear my head and shed negative energy. It's especially therapeutic if you choose to walk at a scenic location.  

6. Drink something healthy and reinvigorating. For some reason, orange juice always puts me in a better mood and makes me feel revitalized and serene. There are many health and mood benefits of drinking orange juice and other fruit juices.    

7. Write. Writing is usually the first thing I do when I’m feeling down. It always helps me get my thoughts and feelings out in front of me.    

8. Take a nap. Sometimes we just need to recharge. I always feel better after getting some rest.   

9. Plan a fun activity. Moping around never helps me feel any better, so it usually helps to plan something fun to do if I’m feeling up to it. It can be something as simple as creating my own vision board or something as big as planning a trip.     

10. Do something spontaneous. Some of my favorite memories entail choices I made spontaneously. We should all learn to let go of routine every now and then and do something exciting and unplanned.      

11. Prioritize. Sometimes I feel depressed when my priorities are out of balance. I try to make sure I’m giving a fair amount of attention to all the priorities in my life, such as work, relationships, health, and personal happiness.

12. Look through old photographs or snap some new ones. Sorting through old memories or capturing new ones usually puts a smile on my face.   

13. Hug someone. I am definitely a hugger. Hugs are such an easy way to express love and care without having to say a word.  

14. Laugh. Watch a funny movie or spend time with someone who has a good sense of humor. Laughing releases tension and has a natural ability to heal.  

15. Cry. I don’t like crying in front of people, but whenever I have an opportunity to slink away and cry by myself, I always feel better afterwards. Crying releases pain.  

16. Read back over old emails or text messages, or listen to old voicemails. Whenever I feel dejected or bad about myself, I like to read kind emails and comments from my blog readers or listen to cute voicemails from my grandmother. Doing so reminds me that I’m loved, thought about, and appreciated.  

17. Reconnect with someone. Get back in touch with an old friend or a family member that you haven’t spoken to in awhile. Reconnecting with people almost always puts me in a good mood and fills my heart up with love.   

18. Write yourself a letter. I try to separate myself from my ego and give myself a pep talk every now and then. Cicero said, “Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.”  

19. Try a deep breathing exercise. There are all kinds of deep breathing exercises out there. Find one you like and do it whenever you’re feeling stressed or overly emotional.  

20. Cultivate gratitude. Practicing genuine gratitude on a daily basis has been a major source of healing in my life. When I step back and notice everything I have to be grateful for, it makes me feel like I have everything I need and that nothing is lacking. It makes me feel whole.   

21. Re-watch a funny or inspiring YouTube video. I recommend Webcam 101 for Seniors. That video cheers me up every time. There are so many funny and inspiring videos online.    

22. Bake something. Baking has always been therapeutic and entertaining for me. Plus, I can eat whatever I baked and share it with others afterward.  

23. Get out of the house. I work from home, so a large majority of my time is spent indoors, planted in front of my laptop. I have to make a point to get out every now and then, whether it’s to get some fresh air or go out to eat with a friend.    

24. Focus on what truly matters to you. Sometimes I forget what matters to me and what isn’t that important. Some things just aren’t worth getting too upset over.  

25. Take a negative comment or situation and look for something positive about it. If someone says something negative to me or I get stuck in an unpleasant situation, sometimes it helps to look at it from a different angle. Perspective is everything.  

26. Daydream. Take a mental vacation. Let your mind wander for a while.   

27. Let some natural sunlight come in. Opening all the blinds and curtains and letting natural sunlight flood your home can help elevate your mood.   

28. Take a mental health day. Sometimes we just need to take a day to clear our heads and nurture our souls. My mental health has a history of being a bit erratic, so nurturing it is a priority in my life.     

29. Let go. This is a very simple mantra of mine. I usually say it to myself multiple times each day, which has been very liberating and empowering.    

30. Read Tiny Buddha. And of course, you can always read Tiny Buddha! I personally love the quotes section. There is a category for almost every universal theme or emotion.

What helps you improve your mood?

Photo by Raelene G

About Madison Sonnier

Madison is a writer of feelings and lover of animals, music, nature and creativity. You can follow her blog at and buy her first eBook through Amazon. She loves making new friends, so be sure to say hi if you like what you see!

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  • I find listening to music always lifts my mood. I have even caught myself trying to stay angry when I am pouting about something, but if a good song comes on I can’t help but feel better.

  • Exercise, play tennis, go for a bike ride, go out in nature and practice photography, play bridge, watch schmoyoho (accent on the yo) on youtube (“day-um,” “double rainbow song,” “can’t hug every cat,” “first debate highlights songified,” “reality hits you hard bro,” “best NASCAR prayer ever!”), watch Flight of the Conchords on youtube (“It’s Business Time,” “Hiphopopotamus v Rhymenoseros,” “Issues [Think About It],” “She’s So Hot, Boom,” “Albi, the Racist Dragon”), the first 20 minutes of Southpark the Movie, some stand-up from Dave Chapelle, Patrice Oneal, or Chris Rock (“Bigger, Badder, Blacker”)

  • Love love love. Thanks for the list – I naturally do all these things, but sometimes one forgets to take some time to do them in the midst of everyday mayhem. Reading this has reminded me to keep doing what I love, be thankful for what I have and let go of what’s over and done which I cannot change. Thanks again for improving my mood 🙂

  • lv2terp

    # 3 is my go-to every time! 🙂 What a wonderful list, thank you for sharing so many wonderful ways to re-center! 🙂

  • Lauren

    “Can’t hug every cat”. . . yes!

  • mcarter3

    #1 way is to cuddle and play with loving pets. Works every time! And appreciate the attention.

  • Limon

    Hi. I wonder if I may translate into spanish this post and share it.

  • Hi Madison, thanks for sharing your story! My most effective way to deal with depression is to take a nap and make sure I’m well-rested. Also, I’ve learned to just be mindful about my feelings – just notice them rather than judge them. This helps immensely!

  • M Sonnier

    Thanks for reading, everyone! 🙂

    <3 Madison

  • M Sonnier

    Yes! That helps me too. 🙂

  • M Sonnier


  • Listening to music and cultivating gratitude are my go-to mood enhancers for sure 🙂 Writing keeps me relatively sane 😉 and creative, along with daydreaming, and it’s always wonderful to have a good laugh at something silly, or at something in your own life situation if you’re up to it!

  • Andrea

    I’ve found that music and natural light always work for me. I’m from Florida but recently moved north and so I’m still getting used to the dark winters.
    Keep writing please because Tiny Buddha is becoming another source of inspiration. =)

  • The Natural Nutritionist

    Yoga. 🙂

  • Jeromy O’Brien

    Im in a place were its pretty harsh winters as well, ive invested in a sunlamp which i would recommend to make sure your getting enough sunlight 🙂

  • Lotus Truong

    My little sis is on the same problem as you were in the past, I print this out and give it to her. You’re uplifting and healing p. I am the one who follow your blog .Lotus Truong. 🙂

  • geethu

    Can you message me the procedure for joining tne group?? My mail id is

  • lejann

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! I was feeling very negative and this just made my day and made me happy!! Thank you

  • ogbonna

    am a psyc hologist and all u said proves to be right.thanks 4 ur emotional healing of people

  • Sean

    Hi I had a girl friend for 2 years we was happy and we lived together we was friends 1st then got together and I was happy with that we had a lot of arguments in the 2 years then she’s cheated on me on the 19th of December and I tried to get back with her she’s did want to since then I’ve felt lost and depressed all over this. What should I do ? People say get over it I try every day but I miss the good times

  • Thanks for sharing this. I just had my best friend tell me she didn´t want to listen to me because apparently that´s all she ever does with everyone, and everyone comes to her with her problems. That made me even more depressed and upset her saying that, and we had an argument and now I have no one at all to talk to. I´m too cowardly for suicide and have have 3 beautiful kitties I love more than life itself, but right now I really feel like ending it all… 🙁

  • kim

    I hope you feel better. Im 24 and ive live my life for 13 years fighting myself to want to live. My parents died so its only me and it gets to me. I know its hard for you but writing helps or typing. Write a story about your life and what you are going through. It keeps you busy hope u feel better…

  • kim

    Its harder to get over it. You sacrafise two years. You have to remind your self of what she did and how emotionally drain it is for you. How in the back of your head she can do it again. Dont give her a second chance to hurt you. Hang out more keep busy so youll forget of the pain

  • That was part of the problem though, I couldn´t use my hands much without pain at the time because of a really painful flareup of my rheumatoid arthritis. I wanted to take my ukulele and play. But I couldn´t. I wanted to write/type a story or a song on my guitar, THAT would have made me happy and distract me, but… I couldn´t. Too much pain in my finger joints. There´s not much else I could do except lie on the sofa and watch episodes of my favourite shows that I had downloaded, but that doesn´t really make me happy really.

    Anyways, I made up with my friend and am accepting her just as she is, she works a stressful job in tourism where everybody comes to complain to her all day and she doesn´t want to hear any more complaints, not even from her friends. And I accept that and respect her, because I can understand what it´s like to work a job like that. But at the time I *needed* her and she refused to be there for me, and that hurt even more than the pain in my hands. But we´re cool now.

    Besides, I am a strong person and always manage to pull myself out of the gutter again when I´m down, even though on those horrible days, that seem neverending, when my pain is so bad it makes me not want to live any longer (and even the strongest painkillers don´t help), it´s just so damn difficult.

    I´m glad I came here though, even though it wasn´t much help at the time really. It´s nice that there are oasises of calm and inspiration on the internet like this. 🙂

  • I want them to know my feeling but I don’t want them to do anything about it … sound impossible

  • 4534534

    useless text

  • Chelsie D Bristol

    This is great, simple ideas that everyone can do with little effort. I have been having some zombie days, and usually very upbeat person. I call them “non” days. Not happy or sad..just non. However, I really enjoyed this article because it’s so human and attainable! I also work from home, so your perspective was great and spot on for me! Thank you 🙂

  • Anon

    Thank you, this is the first website that has given me good ideas. I’m fourteen and I’m about to see my school psychologist to confirm depression. I’m feeling really nervous about it and I’m about to take these tips which I think will make me feel a lot better. Thank you.

  • Thanks for this article — lots of helpful advice

  • nina

    yeah, but what if you have kids and a husband and elderly parents and need to run around and take care of everyone? when you can’t afford to just stay in bed and listen to music!, when you have to get up and go to work and deal with coworkers, when you just don’t want to see anyone and want to be alone?? when you simply feel so down and rejected but still have to be able to function… then what?!

  • cherys

    Lovely ideas. By far the best and most reassuring list I’ve found to get through a few days when I’m feeling down.

  • Krithika Rangarajan

    Dear Barbarella

    Your Comments alone indicate your shining strength and terrific tenacity!

    Don’t feel alone, sweetie. The WORLD is there with you. Please feel free to Friend me on Facebook. It would give me extreme pleasure to simply hold your hand as a friend.

    Happy Friendship Day #HUGSS

    Much love

  • Krithika Rangarajan

    Hey Madison

    I enjoyed your tips, but I especially admire your bravado – it takes guts to open up about your depression #HUGSSSSSS

    I am battling an eating disorder and umpteen other psychological ‘woes’ myself, so your story resonated with me.

    And I seem to have the same interests as you too 😉

    Thanks for sharing some simple, yet EFFECTIVE strategies to take control of our melancholy

    Much love

  • Phyllis

    i love all of them. i did a few today. i wrote a letter right now and it really helped soothe my soul. thank you

  • Pradeep

    Good reading. But when I’m depressed at work I cannot remember any of this. When you’ve already given ten fruitful years to an organization, and are now being unduly criticized, pressured and stressed out by an impatient and short-tempered boss over something that is not totally under your control beats all the sense out of any feel-good methods.

  • gia

    I’m at a terrible place. My husband no longer loves me or wants me. We have a four year old child. He is going to sell our home and live with his parents. I’m not allowed or have say in where will my child go to school. I am told to move away since I am depressed and live close to my family which is 2 hours away. I’m confused. I brought all this on me. My life is destroyed. I can’t sleep. Can’t work or concentrate. I can’t drive. I feel scared. I wish I could just disappeared.

  • Jackie

    Thanks you for those tips. 🙂 but the thing that makes me super depressed is my sister. She dosent let me do homework, fights with me, ignores me, calls me fat, calls me ugly names, make me feel bad, she makes jokes about me, yells at me, but my mom goes on her side. I’m the oldest and my sister has to respect me. I’m 14 and she is 9. All I do is go to my bathroom and cry, and cry, and cry. I can’t defend myself because if I tell her something, she goes and tells my mom, and I’m the one getting introble for it.

  • tony

    Napping really helps me too. It helps me to reset so to speak and forget.

  • justme

    I was feeling very low and after reading these i felt some weight lifted from me shoulder. I have been going through a tough time . I just had a second miscarriage in a span of five months and my dear aunt passed away six weeks ago . sometimes i can’t get someone to talk to and yes…. it’s true it helps to cry alon the some of th pain goes away. Thanks for the tips . I will try to exercise and listen to some uplifting music.

  • Kari

    Please help…
    I am depressed about my Career and looks like my parents wont agree..
    Cried for hours

  • stillHere

    Do not. Rise. You know your wrongs.
    but u gave Life to your childe. Not get up and see your self a part of her life.

    Yes it is sad. But life is worth living and fighthing for.

  • Greats points 🙂 Definitely gonna try some 🙂

  • feeling better

    Thank you so so so so much.

  • Debbie

    I feel that too (yesterday, for example, that’s why I’m here) I fight it lots but it still feels that way some days. Seems like you’re forgetting to love yourself! Remember things that have made YOU happy from YOU before…remember a time when you came up with a way to feel happy and build on it. This is a horrible feeling I hope it’s not insulting, but you need to realize that through everything, only you can make you happy. I’ve battedled depression my whole life and when I realized this, things got much, much better. You’re not being selfish for wanting to or doing something to make you happy. This is your life too and you matter!
    I’ve never EVER written a response to anything before on the internet…other than Facebook, but what you said made me sad for you and me, you need to know a lot of us can feel this way and you’re not alone. Hope you’re doing better 🙂

  • Audaerin Exe

    Thank you for making this list. Most people offer suggestions which, frankly, I either cannot afford or would hurt me physically because I can’t really eat out at all or do a lot of things that most people take for granted because I am very ill. I feel that this list is very reasonable and approachable for those in all walks of life.

  • Manju Sanghvi

    Try ear plugs for music while on move
    Sing to yourself
    Always spend 15 min with ur cell or book before sleeping….once u master that skill you will feel better.

  • sam

    thank you

  • sam

    so much

  • Kath38

    Thank you on your tips..I am really struggling with my life and I am not sure what to do really…To summarize everything, my life is a mess…I am depressed due to lots of reasons including – I don’t have enough friends, I have a medical problem which is very hard to live with and gets in the way of normal life, I always get hurt by people, I had bad things happen to me when I was growing up, I was bullied senselessly at school from young, people close to me have died, family member is dying..other family members causing lots of problems, people usually put me down, people call me fat….Basically I feel worthless, unwanted, unloved, that I don’t belong and not good enough…I have felt like for many years and I have tried 3 times to commit suicide..I am not sure what to do anymore…

  • TDR610

    Kath38- Your post really spoke to me and I want you to know that you’re not alone. There are people out there who love and care about you and you DESERVE to be loved and appreciated. YOU ARE WORTHY!!

  • SGrean

    Your suggestions are really good and I very much wish that I could practice them. But, university has so much work to do that I really do not know how I can convince myself that I need to priorities doing these suggestions over my school work. I feel so terrible everyday and on top of that, I need to force myself to do my work. To make matter worse, I do not much close friends. I have nobody to confide to. Lousy feeling + school work + lonely. Thats the worst combination one could have. fml.

  • Ella Catherine

    This was such a helpful post, I have zombie days a lot where you just can’t feel anything and nothing seems to have a purpose to it, but I love some of these tips, especially the tiny buddha website so thank you 🙂

  • Mia

    It’s normal to feel like this at your age I believe you will be okey.Don’t forget no matter what everything is going to be okey.

  • Mia

    You have to makes choises.I believe you can.

  • x

    pretty useless.

  • Lonely

    I’m still sad

  • Nina,

    I hope you found your answer in the 9 months since your read this article. But, if you didn’t, here is something to think about: I don’t know if I could identify with anyone else in this comment section more than you. I have been there, and I am still there, with you. There is almost no greater agony than the feeling of being trapped by things we cannot control, as in what you stated above. And I also know how unwelcome it sometimes is to have people tell you the simple answer like, “just decide to take charge of your happiness” or “make ‘X’ or ‘Y’ changes and you’ll start to gain happiness and control over your life.” But, the truth is, only you can do it, but you need help. Everyone does. We often feel too guilty to ask for anything we need because it makes us feel weak and selfish. this is an obstacle we need to get over, and it takes time and effort and kindness to ourselves. The things in this article help you to learn to get out of a ‘funk’ but it is not a cure all. As a matter-of-fact, I’m using this article in my newsletter as an example of how to live with Happiness. However, I have written 4 articles for tiny buddha myself, started my writing career and a have a website and a blog all dedicated to helping people like myself find peace and happiness even in their darkest hours. I know how hard it is to be where you are, and I dedicate myself to helping people get out of hopelessness. If you are interested, you can visit me at,, view my current newsletters at, or read my articles here at tiny buddha: The newsletter is free to sign up, and it’s important to me that you know this is not how I make my money, not from my blog or anything else I am doing at the moment. I truly am just like you–I go to work every night, and my issues I deal with daily are unbelievable to most everyone, yet, I survive. I’d love to get to know you, so please stop by the blog or website and let me share with you. I wish you all the wonderfulness you deserve.

    PS Thank you, Madison, for a great article. I am linking it in my newsletter for Sunday, April 5th. I found you at just the right moment…funny how these things work out, isn’t it?

  • SabbySox

    Thank you Madison. I am in a better mood just by reading this.

  • CJ

    I feel like heat in my head and my eyes on fire

  • Bas Adriaan

    Thank you! I was a bit down and this article cheered me up! 🙂

  • Adam Amjoun

    I just want to thank you for your advice, it’s very helpful.

  • Lynnie

    Needed to read this today so looked back at this article. 🙂 Today has been a rubbish day. A bad day. A sucky day. Feeling pretty low. Thank you for the inspiration.

  • Jimbo

    These are very positive helps I do some of them in my normal fighting of these feelings. Having Jesus helps me: someone to talk to, who loves me and His word is full of the most positive things that take me away from self and feeling bad- uplifting. When I’m down that’s where I go!

  • christine

    Thanks darlin for the upbeat advice — was feeling down. Fcck it is hard to overcome sometimes that …. what is it that emotion I guess, that eurrggghh feeling it is a smothering weight but we gotta master it and not let it master us (it does a good job at it tho!). I don’t want to exercise but I am going to make myself.

    All I really want to do is smoke a cigarette because that sometimes helps – but I’ve stopped smoking. Shhht.

    Life is good. Life is good. Life is good. Just gotta remember that and however I am feeling it is just a perception and can change in an instant. It is just how I am perceiving things as of now – based on faulty chemical balance in my brain. it is not how it is.

  • Brenna

    What an awesomely comprehensive guide! I’m making a goal to start doing all/most of these more often in general, not only when I am feeling down. Thanks for writing this post!

  • bob the bulilder

    buddha’s are bad luck

  • Roisin Flanagan

    I found these tips and ideas really helpful thanks

  • Yug Roy

    I have a kid ..husband and Parents at home.I am a WFH mom….I always feel so unwanted at home.I am very emotional and always want some1 to love me…..I can do anything …..but some one should atleast appreciate my efforts ..rather than pointing fingers…..i m sooo unhappy at home or in office……..i Dunno what to do…..for above mentioned things…I am not in mental state to do any of these….I feel i m going in deep depression.

  • yash

    thanks it was really helpful

  • Rain

    Not always normal, when I was 12 I tried to hang myself, there’s a difference between sadness and true depression.

  • Eden

    Some people just don’t want to deal with screaming parents who yell at you 24/7. Or school. Or stupid friends who “have your back”.

  • SD

    Hi Yug Roy,

    I too feel the same most of the times which effects my mental state and profession. Here are some tips that might help me, hope they help you:
    a. Remember it is not easy to please everyone so stop blaming and bothering your self.
    b. Make your importance felt, like, if you don’t do this particular task how it will effect everything else. This will give you space and priority with rest of the family members.
    c. Try to please yourself, like eat what you enjoy, read, watch something you like (Friends; work best for me), go for hair spa or anything that pampers yourself.
    Remember if you cannot keep yourself happy, you cannot make other the same.
    d. Give cold shoulder/silent treatment to things beyond your control.
    e. Make sure so say out loud what you really feel; it may sound rude at first but remember ppl around you should understand.
    f. Download apps and use technology to simplify your tasks.

    Hope it helps

  • PeksMan

    Nice article, really feeling down at this moment, I have to go out for a while and have some sunshine 🙂


    I’ve read this article of yours many times and always get new reason to start with! Many thanks. Keep writing…

  • yuki


    .. when i read this article . i realize that I dont have to worry for anything. even though i am looking for better things. thanks for this article.

  • yuki

    hi madison… i’m hoping that i will meet you.. your a deep person

  • Angela Bonquin

    Thanks for this, Madison. I think if I really try at least half of it, I’ll feel better. I just had a bad situation today and I’m normally a happy person but when problem comes, I really overthink about it. This would help me so much! Thank you 😉 Great blog btw.

  • René Simpson

    I’m sorry, but I think that these are the worst advices you can give to someone who is feeling down. Well, laughing is a good one.

  • lola

    take meds

  • DepressedSoul

    I’m depressed. I need help

  • Jordan Raven Gabriel

    Nice article!
    I used to get depressed at first, but now I just get empty and numb, I felt this before too when I was fourteen. I ended up suffering from psychosis but recovered through the years, I still carry an amount of emptiness, I know what love and kindness is, but I guess it was one sided for so long that I just gave up.

    There are only two things that keep me from going crazy and it’s meditation and a good read.

  • maya

    I do not know why recenly im so depressed about myself. Looking back 40years of age… i have nothing special achievements to be proud of. I am physically normal, but if i die tommorow, people cant recall any special things about me. Just a moderate not so beautiful housewife with 2 kids, doing part time online work, a degree holder of business management. That’s it. I tried many things to get exra money for few years, tried to get involve in business etc… all half way. Im just feel grateful that I have a a nice house to live in, having daily good meal, nobody disturb my life etc… somehow i feel im useless to everybody.

  • kylie ross

    what if your just a kid and you tried to get your parents to take you out of the house and go somewhere using your own money and they said no with no explanation?

  • Naomi Foulis

    Um hi. I’ve recently been feeling down, because of my appearance and what people might think or say. I have a younger sister, she’s called Zoe. She has a beautiful young face and a creative positive mind. Though there’s me.
    I have no courage at all, I always think negative. I look at my friends photos on different types of social media and think at how pretty they are compared to me.
    I took some advice from this page and told my mum about how I feel. She said, “let me see some of the pictures.” I showed her my friends selfies and accounts, I showed her my account and told her I feel self conscious of my appearance. She then said they are all mostly wearing make up, though if your a daddy’s girl like me and hate make up, you will force your answer to be a no.
    So that didn’t work either.
    Then a week or so later my dad and I had an argument. He called me names and said I had no friends, which really hurt. I fell out with him, though then we became friends again. However, I will always remember the words “you have no friends.”
    So to this day I still don’t like my appearance, don’t have any fashion sense and even if I did it wouldn’t suit me, only have 3 main friends, don’t wear make up and don’t have anything good that makes me unique.
    Please help me, I feel trapped.

    ~ Naomi Aged 12 (2016) ✍

  • Cait

    Thank you thank you so much

  • atarauliya

    Hope it helps me too

  • Opine

    id like to hug Madison. 😉

  • Poyong Jose

    Hi Naomi, first, I am so sorry because I just read your comment. I have been in your position too. I have so many friends that makes me fell so insecure in the first place, and I’m not gonna lie that I still feel that until now. Even though I always argued with my parents *sometimes* but they never say anything about my appearance but I still asking the same question to myself, “why am I so ugly? why am I born like this? why I am not capable to be like most my very pretty friends?”.

    But, realized that, there is nothing I can do about it. The only option that I have is become more stronger than ever and I try to improve to them who I am. Not in appearance or physical way but, I try to prove them I am good in my education, sports, singing and other hobbies. Surprisingly, my friends started to admire me because I’m good at what I like to do in my life.

    Dear Naomi, please be strong. You are beautiful just the way you are. God has created you for some really good reasons and I believe that you can’t wait to see it some days. I am looking forward to talk with you in the future. 🙂

    You can always talk to me through my blog here .

    Thank you.

    Love from Malaysia,

    Poyong jose 🙂

  • sudeh

    do make up. it is easy and really helps

  • ibnat hasan

    One major reason for depression for teenagers is thinking about what other people think about you. If one can get rid of this habit , teenage depressions can be easily dealt with.

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    Of* teenagers



  • Imu

    Some how I fell so lonly

  • None

    Thank you so much for these suggestions. I tried looking at my situation from a different perspective and I feel 100x better! Thank you!

  • Lauren

    I feel like I’ve let everyone down , and I’m starting to get horrible thoughts like ” im a big mistake ” ! is this normal , im only 13 years of age 🙁

  • Josephine

    we were somewhat in the same situation, but with me, when i dont have a choice, i just pause a minute and take a short inhale and exhale and a very long sigh just to release all the emotion and impatient within me.

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  • Connor

    I really appreciate this. I just got of playing with some ‘friends’ online. They were calling me stuff like fat and gay and, whilst I laughed it of, it really made me feel upset and depressed. After a while, I just took my headset of and let the tears flow. I had the volume on the headset up so I could still hear them talking and to my surprise the were arguing over who’d fault it was. Eventually I came of and looked up ‘how to feel better when you feel down’ and came across this. I only had the decency to love my pet dog and I feel much better already.

    Again, thanks.

  • David Wyle

    got me feeling better immediately thanks a million!

  • Mia

    Thank you for those tips!
    It’s hard to practice that daily in away to overcome many issues and how we can deal with that effectively. But I’m sure as you said it helps a lot . Stay positive

  • Overlooked

    Well, that’s well and good if you don’t work, don’t have to work, or have a private office and can get away with skiting. Not really anything here for those of us who are time-poor and live paycheck to paycheck. Not saying this article is bad, but it does overlook the fact that not having any (let alone oodles of) free time could be a contributing factor here.

  • Laurie

    Ah I found this really helpful. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • The Web Fashionisto

    Thank you for this 🙂

  • Patty Karvelas

    this was a WONDERFUL read! Thank you!!!!!

  • odysseas

    Thanks. That helped.

  • Monica

    What if you have no spouse or kids?

  • Rebecca VB

    This doesn’t help me at all! It is making me more depressed!!!!! I’ve tried all these things but none of them work!!!!

  • sweetzy smith

    this is all useless if all you wanted is to die and you dont have money

  • tummeti rajavamshi

    Hi Nanette ..Hope you are doing good . Here i just wanted share my very horrible experiences to you with Anxiety and Depression . And need your guidance to come out of it . Its effecting my daily life very badly . Its been an year it started hunting me .I am not able to focus / concentrate on any thing , getting irritated easily , not feeling the excitement , negative thoughts , over thinking (without my knowledge ) ..and self doubt , feeling moody most of the time .

    I have lost my father when i was one year old . I am the only kid to my parents …Irrespective of the all the difficulties( financial , personal emotional ) with the support of few of my relatives i studied well and got a good job…
    I am also very career oriented guy does lot of hard work ..i used to teach computer courses in the institutes and did job and worked very very hard to see my self and my other in a good position …

    But one bad day …in the april 16 , i expeicned very nervous feeling that includes unknown fear from inside the stomach , and sleep disturbances happened for couple of days and finally visited a specialist related to see . He said its depression and having anxiety also . I have taken anti depression medicines but i exeperined drowsiness in the morning time ..felling like sleepy in the after noon and kind of laziness . I also did excersise alot and trying to practice pranayama every day …i have seen improvement of course …but how to cure it normally ..i do not want to use anti depression medicines … I am ready to do any thing to come out of it.

    As of now
    1. stopped taking alcohol
    2. Doing pranayama
    3 . Excersies

    The biggest challenges are

    1 . Over thinking (negative thoughts )
    2 . Always my mind is wandering thru different bad expencies i have faced in this period
    3. Due to this my current mood is getting spoiled
    4. My confidence levels went down . I am not teaching . …But definetly would like to restart it .

    Looking forward for your valuable suggestions .

    Thanks in advance!!

  • Iris & Quinn Fierro

    hey sometimes i feel as i can never seem to ever get close to any one because I always get hurt in the end and that is what causes me to become depressed do you have any advice