“You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Don’t doubt yourself. You are more than enough.
You are good enough. If no one else tells you that, I will reaffirm that you are good enough to do whatever you want in life. Life is too short for you to paralyze yourself with doubts.
I used to doubt my capabilities, and I was so unhappy and frustrated with life. I tried to bury myself in self-help books to find the answers to achieve success and happiness. One book after another, I kept reading, but I had little results to show for it.
The pain became unbearable, particularly when my friends made fun of the books that I read.
But I didn't give up. I kept on searching for answers by listening to audio books, reading books, and attending seminars by revered masters in the topic of personal development. One baby step at a time, I started to apply the knowledge I had gained.
That's when things started to change around me. Once I started applying what I learned, I:
- Created a popular personal development blog without any technical skills.
- Started exercising regularly, ate healthier, and lost thirteen pounds in the process.
- Wrote an eBook to help others to unleash their maximum potential.
- Completed two half marathons and registered for the full marathon at the end of 2010.
After I took action and saw results, I felt much happier and more peaceful with myself. My doubts slowly started to fade away. I thought to myself, “Maybe I am really good enough to achieve in life.”
I am good enough.
This is all any of us need to know. When you believe in yourself, your potential isn't something you need to reach; it's something waiting to be discovered.
I want to let you know you are capable of doing anything you want in life. You don't need to suffer with your doubts.
Here are five ideas to help clear your doubts, build your confidence, and find the sleeping potential within you:
1. Make a conscious choice to pursue personal growth.
The decision to change and grow is a powerful tool that can help you move forward. Make a decision that you will start to pursue growth. Start reading books and blogs about stretching yourself, listen to audio books, or attend seminars with other like-minded people.
Materials and mentors are everywhere. There are many blogs, books, and podcasts on personal development. Tiny Buddha is a good place to start. Go read up the articles and quotes in this blog. There are many lessons and tips that can help you discover your inner potential.
2. Set a goal to work toward.
It's easy to feel aimless when you don't have a concrete goal you're working toward. Narrow in on what you'd like to accomplish in the near future. Maybe it's to get fit, start your own business, or clear your debts. The point is to get specific about exactly what you'd like to do and when.
Ask yourself, “If I knew I couldn't fail, what would I want to achieve?” Don't drag out this process by trying to find the perfect answer. There is no perfect answer, and the only way you can find the answer is through trial and error.
When you delay action, you make it harder to identify the things you'd enjoy doing. The only way to learn is to jump into something that sounds right and make adjustments as you go.
3. Take baby steps.
Action fights doubts. By taking small steps, you're building evidence to show your mind that you are more and can do more than you think.
Now that you have something to aim for, brainstorm for ways to get yourself to where you want to be. A good plan is to look to people who have already done what you'd like to do.
Seek them out and learn from them. You can find out whether they have blog, coaching programs, or books that you can read. Having a mentor will help you accelerate your growth progress. They can help point out what you need to do and avoid to follow in their footsteps.
4. Keep a success list.
We all need reminders that we are good enough. You are more than capable enough to achieve whatever you want to achieve, but you might forget that when you hit an obstacle. A success list can help to remind you why you shouldn't let go of your confidence.
A success list is the collection of all your accomplishments. Get a book or create a personal blog. Record all accomplishments regardless it is big or small. Here are some examples of what you can record in your success list.
- Completed all your tasks in your to-do list
- Workout for three days in a week
- Jogged around your block
- Created your own blog
- Attracted 10 subscribers to your blog
Don’t worry about whether your accomplishments are big or small. If it is an accomplishment, just record it down in your success list.
When you start to doubt yourself, go get your success list. Look at all of the positive things you've done. Remind yourself that you are capable and you have the evidence to prove it.
Large accomplishments are really just a collection of small accomplishments. Your confidence will also grow when you are aware that you are accomplishing something.
5. Set your own bench mark.
Don't ever think that your accomplishments are too small to be proud of. It may seem that way if you start comparing yourself to other people. Even if you complete a marathon, there will be others out there who completed an iron man race. It's an endless cycle when you compare yourself to others all the time.
Set your own benchmark. Be proud of yourself if you're making progress. Some people progress faster than others will. That's okay. Life is not a sprint; it's a marathon.
Focus on what you can do to improve yourself instead of comparing yourself to other people. Keep growing, setting goals, and moving forward, one step at a time, and you will continually impress yourself.
It doesn’t matter how slowly we go. What matters is that we keep going.