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dodhiaParticipantThat’s it , means I am lost now and I do not know what to do .
dodhiaParticipantI ended up talking to my father and things did not go that well
He doesn’t care and told me. If you want to get out you can.. For good and there is no way he will ever agree for me too marry him.
That’s it
dodhiaParticipantWhat if you do escape your father’s meanness and domination and join your boyfriend in an adventure, the two of you escaping the society that will condemn you and live elsewhere, far away, untouched by your father and his society?
I wish this was possible.. But some circumstances won’t allow us to leave the country we are in. Though we can in the coming years
Unfortunately, you are in a difficult situation with no possible easy solution. It will be easier maybe to obey your father, but how will your life be, marrying someone he wants you to marry, someone he will choose for you.. how will that be like for you…
See that is what I can’t do.. I can’t marry someone else.. If my father had valid reasons for the boy. I would have considered leaving him.. But he isn’t anything my father says he is.. Everyone else who knows about me and my boyfriend.. Loves him as a an amazing human being.. It’s just my father who can’t see it..
You have a very true and valid point that even if I stay home, my dad will never change or be nice to my mom.. It just hurts so bad to see. A father do all these things.. I wonder whyy..
In 25 years of my life I have not spoken to him for more than 5 minutes.. But tomorrow I am going to confront him.. And try to convince him.. Do you think i should do that anita?
dodhiaParticipantAnd anita, what you said about money. I wish I could give him.. But I can’t.. Cause i dont even have that much! Haha
dodhiaParticipantSo you suggest I leave the house? If my father says that
Cause I am going to try and convince him one last time tomorrow for allowing me to marry him.. But I am afraid he will say get out of my house if you want to marry that boy..
The one thing I am worried that once I am kicked out of my house.. Who will take care of my mother.. My dad has always been a mean person to her..
And society will disgrace me.. For leaving my parents for a boy I love. That means I chose my love over my parents.
dodhiaParticipantHe has threatened that he will hurt the man Iove and there is no one he listens to in this world. He listens to himself only
I know this boy for more than 4 years and I am old enough to know who I want to spend my life with. I just need to know how to convince a stubborn estranged father for marriage.
He thinks this boy is not rich and wants to marry me for my money which is not true at all
dodhiaParticipantDear anita,
My case is very similar.
I come from an indian background and so does my boyfriend. He is amazing, he has a good job , he earns well, he is kind and smart . Basically everything a girl would want.
I want to marry him, but my father being orthodox claims that I cannot marry him because he is not from the same caste and not as rich as us . But in reality my boyfriend and us have the same social status.
Let’s say I am a Jain and he is a Patel (caste) .
Our religions differ just slightly but at the end we are both Indians.
My father , has threatened me that if I continue to date him or get married to him he will disown me and kick me out of the house.
My father said that my boyfriend lives in a rented apartment and not his own. So that makes him poor and makes us richer.
I dont know what to do, being kicked out of house is a Taboo in the indian society.
I really need your help on how I should convince my parents, they are just too against it.
I am the only child and I just can not walk out of their lives.
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