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October 19, 2013 at 11:11 pm #44027AlexanderParticipant
Thank god you did not have children with him. lol. Imagine that!
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”October 19, 2013 at 10:40 pm #44024AlexanderParticipant
Do not feel guilty for the past, you are a young girl and still have a lot to learn how to behave with a man. My ex-girlfriend for example was very competitive with me too, I just saw it as silly and never bothered with it too much. My mom for example when she was young women just like yourself and married to my father went and applied to a job as a secretary in a place where my father dreamed to work in all his life. He eventually got the job there after finishing his training, but he was frustrated with what my mom did. lol
It is just what you young girls do it seems. But you have learned, matured and know that it is not a good thing to do. This is what it is all about, learning and growing up. And yes a lot of things we learn in life is through mistakes. That is why it is very important to forgive one another.
The fact is that now you are looking back on your life, and see that you would have done thing differently. Shows you have grown up.
What your bf seems to be doing is trying to look for someone better or fool around, yet he does not want to loose you. He is being selfish though as he does not realize how it is effecting you. He tries to get away from being responsible by using statement like, “but I though we broke up, this is why I went with her”, that is a mind game and he is immature. It does not work that way. Love has its own rules and you can not cheat it by such non-sense. You know that girl, you know in your heart that he did not actually believe that. He just used that an excuse to cheat that love and responsibility you have between and towards one another.
Now I do not know what you have been doing yourself all this time. But if you guys have been seeing other people and fooling around. The relationship is pretty much over by this point. Best I can suggest is salvage what you have. The more you keep contact now the more bad experience you will gather between one another and baggage you will have to deal with later on. You and him.
Leave now, cut all contact. Give him time and yourself. And I mean no contact. Let him get his crap together and head/heart straight. Let him understand that he cannot treat someone you love like that, TRUST me you will do a benefit to him and yourself, this in the long run will make him a better person. You yourself go out there and have fun. But I mean good fun, not sleeping with every guy you meet to fill the void and try to end the pain with idea that there is no return.
The thing is, the stuff you went through now, is baggage, the longer you stay together the more bad stuff will happen right now between you two. In the future if you ever want to get back together this will stand between you two. That is why I’m saying it is pointless to stay in relationship now. Leave and salvage what you have, and do not do more bad things to him and avoid him as he might do bad things to you now. If he is a good young guy, he will man up mature up and perhaps in a year or two you will meet up again. And he will marry you.
Just be a good girl darn it. Do not fight, do not create more problems, leave. And let him grow up. And do NOT go into revenge mode, you will ruin him and yourself.
And try most importantly understand that your boyfriend is a human being too, he is just young and foolish, and hopefully will grow up to be a good man one day. Who understand how this stuff works, and that he can not play games, try to cheat your love like he is doing now. Thus he does not understand the pain he caused you.
As ironic as it sound, but “if you really love him you will let them go”. At this point of your life is where this saying applies most true now. And I mean let him go, be a good girl and just go, take no revenge, leave all these games behind. Be the better person here.
And besides, the best revenge is moving on. lol