I am going through a break up as well. It has been slightly longer than yours, but it was a long relationship. I was planning on marrying him and that didn’t happen. Anyway, he recently told me that he has this “friend” and i felt that electric sting in my gut. Pangs of jealousy were hitting me and I realized that even though I still have some feelings for him that it is just best to wish him well. I really do wish nothing but happiness for him. He says that she is just a friend, but I still feel the pangs. So, I wrote, and managed to work it out to the best of my abilities. I had to decided if I was jealous over him having someone new, or if I was upset that he had someone before I did. It was hard to admit that the latter was the truth. I was jealous that he had someone before me. I decided, in that moment, that it’s OK that he has someone else and I don’t. He has the right to move on and it should have no barring on how I feel or what I do. I began thinking of happier things. Things that I wanted to do for me and me alone. Though the pangs hit at strange times, I feel pretty Ok with what’s happening in his life and my own and that we are on different paths. Mine is just a little slower than his.
I hope this helped a little. Light and Happiness!
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