Hi Trixie,
I love what Matt said here. And I’ve gone through the same thing. It took me a few years to get over a particular ex, but it’s important to remember that you are in the process of healing. There is no “off” switch, but you can reassure yourself by knowing that you are continually growing and in the process of healing. I wrote a blog article here on how to start the process on getting over your ex: http://alexismeads.com/ask-alexis-how-do-i-get-over-my-ex/
Love to you,
Alexis