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October 10, 2014 at 5:37 am #66181
AliamanuParticipantAhh, I see now. Again, you’re all right and you can do this!
The future is always uncertain. You’ve probably heard or read this before, but all we can be sure of is the present moment. We make the best decisions about the future based on what we know now and we let the rest unfold. As we continue on, we make adjustments here and there and we end up where we were meant to be.
You’re at the doorway to a new chapter in your life, which means leaving the familiar behind. That can be scary and stressful but it’s also exciting. What good things will come your way? Fear and doubt will block your ability to see and enjoy the good. That’s no fun, so ask the fear and doubt to step to the side. You control the fear and doubt; don’t let them control you.
Sending more love and light!
October 10, 2014 at 3:54 am #66178AliamanuParticipantHello again Lexy99,
I can’t quite tell from your post if you’re dealing with personal issues and your job, or just the job situation itself. Are personal issues affecting you on the job or is it the other way around?
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by several things, perhaps taking a leave of absence from your job might give you time and space to look at things more objectively. If you find that the conditions at work are so intolerable that you’re stressed and anxious to the point of becoming ill, then the question to ask yourself is whether a paycheck is worth the misery. If you decide that the personal issues are interfering with your work performance, then the question becomes how to resolve those issues so that you can continue to work at your best and highest level.
You may be feeling uncomfortable but you’re being cautious about your next move, which is a good sign that you’re doing all right. Steady on…we’re sending love and light your way!
Warmest aloha,
AliamanuOctober 9, 2014 at 7:51 pm #66172AliamanuParticipantHi there, Diana!
I think I understand what you’re feeling. Some people are awe-inspiring with their confidence and abilities, which can create some feelings of inferiority in others.
How I learned to deal with it is to love, admire, and learn from these people and give them credit where credit is due. I respectfully tip my hat to them. At the same time, I must love and celebrate me, and be happy about all the things that make me uniquely ME. I respectfully tip my hat to myself. You are you, and perfectly so. What other people are or are not doesn’t take anything away from your awesomeness. No one can diminish you unless you allow it and you’re well on your way to not letting that happen.
It’s wonderful that this woman is in your life. She has qualities that you admire and value and you may choose to incorporate them into your own life, as long as it doesn’t compromise the essence of you. Look upon her as a teacher and be grateful for the lessons. (You may not be aware of it, but you will teach her something along the way, too.)
Hope this helps a bit.
With warm aloha,
AliamanuOctober 9, 2014 at 5:04 pm #66166AliamanuParticipantHello lexy99,
Sometimes we get ourselves into a bind and don’t quite know how to make it right. I have a few suggestions, which I offer respectfully:
1. Admit to transferring the calls and doing so when you could’ve handled them yourself. Own up to your mistake and pledge to not make the same mistake again for as long as you work there. Also admit that you haven’t applied yourself as diligently as you usually do. Why? Your manager will respect your ability to recognize your mistakes and to accept responsibility for them, as well as your sincerity in being able to be a good worker. While it’s hard to admit to doing something wrong, we honor ourselves and the people around us by being honest and sincere.
2. Ask your manager if there’s something more you can do to atone for the mistake. Why? Again, your manager will see that you are mature enough to accept responsibility and to make things right.
3. If you haven’t done so yet, start searching for a new job immediately. If your current job is so intolerable that you can’t be there any more, then leave as soon as possible. This may cause financial hardship along with the stress of being unemployed but you’ll avoid creating more problems for yourself at work. This is important. You don’t want a potential employer checking your work references and finding out that you have a bad work record.
Be true to yourself and the values you hold in high regard.
Wishing you peace and aloha,
AliamanuOctober 9, 2014 at 4:39 pm #66165AliamanuParticipantHello Todzilla,
Difficult work situations are trying and they tax our spirits. I’m sorry you’re going through something like that.
If I may offer this comment: The webmaster is a master of her own life, her own successes and failures, as the rest of us are masters of our own lives. She is choosing to view the situation as a personal attack rather than an opportunity to learn and grow, both personally and professionally. That is her choice. Unless and until she is able to calm her mind and spirit sufficiently to see and hear what you are presenting, she will be resistant to anything anybody says.
It sounds like you’ve exercised compassion and empathy by trying to reason with her. That is the most you can do; the rest is up to her. If she does not comply with the ultimatum set by the CEO and HR director, then she must deal with the consequences on her own. It’s a hard thing for a compassionate person to witness but again, she is the master of her own life.
I hope this helps a little. I wish the best for both you and the Webmaster.
With warm aloha,
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