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  • #93948
    Alicia1211
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    Hello Nan, that’s a difficult situation, I imagine that you feel that this is your chance to finally be happy with your first partner again, however, I believe you should really wait to make a decision like leaving your current husband, as much as you feel happy right now, try to stay calm and evaluate both situations before you do anything. If things don’t work out with your first husband, you have made a great damage to your current familiy.

    I hope everything works out great for you.

    #93627
    Alicia1211
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    We agreed to see each other on the gyn consult on thursday, meanwhile I asked him to let me be alone this days to reflect about what is best for me right now..

    #93616
    Alicia1211
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    He asked me to tell them, he told his parents first. He has been back and forward with our relationship since we broke up three months ago. Tha payments they are talking about are doctors, blood analysis, vitamins, all that… is not about the money, is about the attitude he’s taking towards the pregnancy, he doesn’t seem sure to want to be with me

    #93605
    Alicia1211
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    So I finally told my parents and they took it pretty well, however they were shocked about my ex’s respond, they told him that they didn’t saw any compromise from him with me (he hasn’t paid or helped me with anything), I previously had asked him that if it wasn’t for the baby, what would he want for us, and his response was that he would not get back with me…..

    My parents told him that they didn’t think that he cared for me at all, the baby yes, but for me… no, that he didn’t loved me……… and he stayed silent. That was pretty hard to take. He always said that he missed me and wanted me back, I guess it wasn’t really true. I asked him for time, to leave me alone for a while, I need to think what am I going to do… Im really shocked and confused.

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by Alicia1211.
    #93150
    Alicia1211
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    Hey Brock, I understand how it feels to feel alone and with a lot of difficult things happening to you, I’m going through a difficult time myself but after a lot of thinking I noticed that in this cases you should lift yourself up, look after yourself, your happiness belongs only to you, not your relationships or your job, it belongs to you so own it! The worst thing you can do right now is not doing anything, go out and search something that you would liked to do and you couldn’t, you have the time now and It’s never too late to start, maybe try to learn a musical instrument? to paint? You can enter a course and get to know other people so you can make some friends, I used to get my friends for granted until now, I’m having a really difficult time I understand how important they are, look after yourself first so you can be strong enough to deal with everything else later.

    I hope you feel better soon

    #93149
    Alicia1211
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    Thank you Anita! I’m trying my best to be calm, im sure this is the best decision that we can make with our circunstances, I can see that he is willing to give all his effort for this to work for the wellbeing of our baby

    #93126
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    I’m just really scared that things don’t work out between us, I would love to have a family with him and not being by myself…

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by Alicia1211.
    #93119
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    In January 2015 I had an accident and became really depressed, I could only see the negativity in my life even when he tried to show me the good instead, after I got back to work everything was really stressfull for both of us and that’s when we started to fight almost everyday, before the accident we didn’t fight at all, a small discussion here and there but that was it. He is 28 and I’m 27 and I’m 3 to 4 weeks pregnant, still very little. He told me that he wanted to do this with me, move in together and see how things work, but after our fight we both considered that this wasn’t the best option because we would be fighting all the time and ruin the small chance that we have to make things right. We decided now to work on our friendship first and focus on the baby, see what happens from there

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