It makes me feel like that’s another thing that’s changed as if he lost motivation or is that just unrealistic to expect him to keep doing? Should I not be upset about it? I want his eagerness through text too

I understand. I guess every change that I noticed, even small things that he would forget or stop doing when he would consistently meant that he was losing feelings or I wasn’t getting what I deserve.

Him forgetting to say goodnight to me, him not being used to phone calls, him not expressing his eagerness to see me the way he used to but would still agree to see me and make plans…these are things I shouldn’t misinterpret as him losing feelings for me or taking me for granted right?

is it normal to not want to talk to your special partner all the time? Like should I not worry if I’m not the first thing he thinks of after everything?

I understand no one likes to be micromanaged. But it’s because he never had an issue before sharing everything on his own. So I felt the sudden change, maybe it’s exhausting, meant something was wrong with us.

hes also very comfortable with me so he doesn’t feel like he has to talk all the time or think of something to talk to the way he would with a person that we don’t see often. I should udnerstns that’s normal right?

how do I stop reading into his actions too much and see things for what it really is like I used to? We had a great date yesterday, and he always ends up reassuring me he’s here with me and he’s willing to take in all of it that we go through together. And he’s been making a lot of plans with me.

I guess I’m complaining at the way we talk when we are apartlike he’s not expressive of many of his thoughts and feelings through text so that’s why I desire to see him so much in person for our quality time.

if you can answer all these questions for me, it would be really reassuring and helpful. Thanks so much

I’ve been open to my friend about how I feel. And she understands but feels it’s unfair to her that I don’t trust her completely and she’s hurt because she thinks or feels that I think she’s a bad person. She doesn’t want me, as her friend, to feel this kind of way about her she wants me to be comfortable and not be anxious seeing her next to my bf. Like be ok with them having small talk. But her personality is more bubbly and social in general. She says I should be ok with her expressing herself in her personality. I just don’t like my bfs reaction to her. It’s always laughter.

And yes I shouldn’t be overthinking or having thoughts take over me. It’s preventing me from being myself. So the more I cling on to my relationship or the more effort I put in, the less I’ll be satisfied bc I should let my man do that right even if it takes awhile? I just feel he’s getting so used to this emotional insecure me that he might not have desire to hang with me like he’s not gaining anything from it. I’ve told him how I feel these feelings and he trusts and understands I’m figuring things out. I will be myself he encourages me to just be me. He tells me he loves me all the time. I’m having a hard time adjusting to comfortable stages in our relationship.

is it normal not to have much to talk about after you’ve been together for so long? I can’t sxpdct him to always find something to say to me right. That sounds unnatural. Like I should be happy in silence with him. I guess I imagine the scenarios where I’ve seen him laugh with my friend even tho it was harmless socializing. I want to make him laugh all the time with me. But if I don’t have much going on in my life he must not have anything to ask about me right. I can’t wxpect too much? I can’t expect him to be interested when there’s nothing happening to me