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  • in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #181255
    Anastasia
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    It makes me feel like that’s another thing that’s changed as if he lost motivation or is that just unrealistic to expect him to keep doing? Should I not be upset about it? I want his eagerness through text too

    in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #181253
    Anastasia
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    Another thing, whenever plans wouldn’t need work out for us he’s always make an effort to reschedule to the next day or so right away or come back to me to make plans to meet the next day . But lately he doesn’t he just says we’ll have to do it another time lol and that’s it no eagerness to see me or affection

    in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #181237
    Anastasia
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    I understand. I guess every change that I noticed, even small things that he would forget or stop doing when he would consistently meant that he was losing feelings or I wasn’t getting what I deserve.

    Him forgetting to say goodnight to me, him not being used to phone calls, him not expressing his eagerness to see me the way he used to but would still agree to see me and make plans…these are things I shouldn’t misinterpret as him losing feelings for me or taking me for granted right?

    is it normal to not want to talk to your special partner all the time? Like should I not worry if I’m not the first thing he thinks of after everything?

    I understand no one likes to be micromanaged. But it’s because he never had an issue before sharing everything on his own. So I felt the sudden change, maybe it’s exhausting, meant something was wrong with us.

    hes also very comfortable with me so he doesn’t feel like he has to talk all the time or think of something to talk to the way he would with a person that we don’t see often. I should udnerstns that’s normal right?

    how do I stop reading into his actions too much and see things for what it really is like I used to? We had a great date yesterday, and he always ends up reassuring me he’s here with me and he’s willing to take in all of it that we go through together. And he’s been making a lot of plans with me.

    I guess I’m complaining at the way we talk when we are apartlike he’s not expressive of many of his thoughts and feelings through text so that’s why I desire to see him so much in person for our quality time.

    if you can answer all these questions for me, it would be really reassuring and helpful. Thanks so much

     

    in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #180917
    Anastasia
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    Hi Anita,

    yes ive been trying to relax and get my thoughts under control. I need to be calm.

    do you think I shouldn’t make a big deal out of if he stops saying goodnight to me? Is it wrong that I notice it as a sign hes tired of doing that like losing effort or interest? Because for me if you love someone, I would want to I wouldn’t be tired of it. Is it bad to complaim about that?

     

    and how do you make a man chase you and be interested without being clingy? I’ve been told that I’m overly in love with him so how do I calm that. And how do I regain who I am and know that he will love me through it all

     

    in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #180749
    Anastasia
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    I’ve been open to my friend about how I feel. And she understands but feels it’s unfair to her that I don’t trust her completely and she’s hurt because she thinks or feels that I think she’s a bad person. She doesn’t want me, as her friend, to feel this kind of way about her she wants me to be comfortable and not be anxious seeing her next to my bf. Like be ok with them having small talk. But her personality is more bubbly and social in general. She says I should be ok with her expressing herself in her personality. I just don’t like my bfs reaction to her. It’s always laughter.

     

    And yes I shouldn’t be overthinking or having thoughts take over me. It’s preventing me from being myself. So the more I cling on to my relationship or the more effort I put in, the less I’ll be satisfied bc I should let my man do that right even if it takes awhile? I just feel he’s getting so used to this emotional insecure me that he might not have desire to hang with me like he’s not gaining anything from it. I’ve told him how I feel these feelings and he trusts and understands I’m figuring things out. I will be myself he encourages me to just be me. He tells me he loves me all the time. I’m having a hard time adjusting to comfortable stages in our relationship.

     

    is it normal not to have much to talk about after you’ve been together for so long? I can’t sxpdct him to always find something to say to me right. That sounds unnatural. Like I should be happy in silence with him. I guess I imagine the scenarios where I’ve seen him laugh with my friend even tho it was harmless socializing. I want to make him laugh all the time with me. But if I don’t have much going on in my life he must not have anything to ask about me right. I can’t wxpect too much? I can’t expect him to be interested when there’s nothing happening to me

    in reply to: Lost myself in my relationship #180679
    Anastasia
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    Hi Anita,

    Well he’s always grown up with sisters who are like tough like a “guys girls” type, he hasn’t been close to many ppl who aren’t like girl girls. I’m a guess I just mean I’m the opposite of that like I’ve never dealt with a masculine man before the guys I’ve been close to in the past have always been willing to be open about their feelings but my bf isn’t so much like that. We vibe well as long as we be ourselves and speak our minds. But I’ve acted emotionally and complained a lot without understanding that I’ve put a strain on us, I feel codependent. And before al the problems he’s always ask me to hangout and chill without me having to initiate, but recently I e I keep beating him to it or when he does ask me I feel like it’s because I’ve complained about it but maybe I shoukd just take it and cherish it right. Idk why I feel like he just responds cause h has to and not bc he genuinely wants to tell me or share with me things with excitement. It’s iust something’s different from the way it used to and he wants to make it work with me and he’s understanding that I’m finding myself he’s patient about it. Why do I keep expecting so much from him or wanting to see more and more interest when he does try to show me when he can

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