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  • in reply to: PLEASE someone help me pls, i feel like im loosing my self #366598
    Ana
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    Hello Felix,

    I think Rose of Yellow stated it pretty well. It doesn’t matter what this girl said, whether she said she misses you, she has pictures of you, etc. The message is pretty loud and clear: She is not interested in you and she doesn’t want you to wait around for her or to pursue her any longer. If she does have any feelings for you, I highly doubt they are the same kind of feelings you have for her. Also it’s possible she said those things to try to let you down easy. Regardless, if you really care about this girl then leave her alone like she asked you to. You’re right in that you can’t control if she meets and gets to know other people. You can’t control the future, but I can tell you that if you don’t leave her alone and you keep pushing for more she will more than likely stop talking to you completely. I don’t mean to sound harsh. I hope that you’re able to move on and find someone that has the same feelings for you as you do for them.

    in reply to: Feeling stuck and unhappy with my relationship #168336
    Ana
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    Hi Brooke,

    I sympathize with your situation and especially the not wanting to “give up just yet.” I think that if you aren’t ready to give up, that’s ok. However, I wanted to comment on some things that you said. First, you said that he’s told you, repeatedly it sounds like, that he needs time and he wants to take things slow. When you continuously bring up that you are unhappy with his request, that is not giving things time. In other words you are not respecting his needs. I know that it’s very hard to back off from the situation, especially when you want it to work out, but that is essentially what he is asking you to do. You are feeling insecure with the relationship the way it is now and by asking him about it often you are seeking reassurance from him. When he says that he doesn’t know what you want him to say, it’s because he’s already told you how he feels and what he wants. He knows what he wants and how he feels with regards to the relationship, now you have to decide how you feel and what you want. Are you willing to actually give things time? If you are, then I would suggest that when you guys do see each other, try to be present and enjoy the time you do get to spend with him without worrying about the future. In the meantime, what can you do to cope? I think right now would be a great time for you to keep figuring out who you are. The time after college can be very challenging and stressful because of all the changes that take place, but you can also use this time to really get to know yourself and try new things that perhaps you wouldn’t try if you lived with your boyfriend. What do you want? You mentioned that your boyfriend is thriving at work and that he works out every day. ¬†What are you doing with your day to day? One last thing that I think is important to mention…it is not your boyfriend’s (or anyone’s) responsibility to make you happy. That is a very heavy burden for anyone to bear. The only person who can make you happy is really you. I think that you going to counseling is a great start and I hope you continue to go!

    At the end of the day you are really the only one who can decide what you are willing to put up with and how long you are willing to wait. Don’t stay involved in the relationship out of fear. If your boyfriend decides he doesn’t want to commit like before, you will be ok.

    I hope this helps!

    Ana

    in reply to: Any writers (or curious people) want my old diaries? #146213
    Ana
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    I’m not exactly a writer but I am a very curious person fascinated by human nature. I would love to read some of your diaries.

    in reply to: The Ocean #144755
    Ana
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    I’m sorry if you really feel this way, however your poem is absolutely beautiful.

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