Hello,

My suggestion is that you need to write a list of things you want to improve on. Only then will you find the answer to problems. It is a lot about rebuilding self-esteem and positive thoughts. Self-improvement is key to success in your life!

1/ You are afraid of losing him forever..it is normal and so you are looking for a way of getting him back as quickly as possible, which is normal. You care for him and he obviously cares for you. Only the two of you can decide whether your love for each other is big enough to keep fighting and stay together. Make sure you do everything in your power to feel better about yourself and keep negative thoughts out of the way!

2/ Don’t hesitate to talk to your mum or siblings you can talk to about this as it might help seeing things clearly and usually helps resolve a situation quicker than expected. Life does work in mysterious ways..I know that it is a confusing time for you but keep your positive goal in mind!

3/ My suggestion is also to enrol in a yoga class and work on yourself to rebuild self-confidence and inner peace. Nobody can say anything about that!

Best of luck and listen to what your heart tells you!

Hope this helps!

Hello,

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr

First: my advice is to definitely listen to your heart. It is difficult when you have so many challenges coming through at the same time but it is worth it. Also take your time and talk to your family about the decisions you want to make. Good communication within a family is key to success in your life. They love you and it is already a great thing. They will continue to support you with your search, that is another great thing.

Second: Perhaps there is a local bureau you could go to for advice on courses and qualifications you can do which will always be useful in your life like a First Aid course. It is certainly needed in the military and these courses could open doors to a brighter future. You will be happy to enrol as they often run throughout the year and so you won’t feel you missed any boat and will get a sense of achievement you are looking for right now.

The great thing about doing a/this course is meeting other people who can help, make friends helping you recover from your past experiences. Also, when you do the course you can always speak in confidence to a qualified teacher or tutor who will help you and guide you with your needs. You will regain strengths!

Good luck!