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    Thank you so much NeoVizion.  It is very true. Throughout my life I have looked for relationship to feel a sense of self worth. I have already started working on self love and self confidence.

    in reply to: I fell in love with someone ,I might not be able to marry. #268841
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    Thanks Anita for your kind words. Right, I need to work on how I feel about myself and keep trying.

    in reply to: I fell in love with someone ,I might not be able to marry. #268837
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    Hi Inky, Initially I used to feel guilty..but now I don’t. Somewhere I know , I am not wrong because I have fallen for someone I have even rarely met(only 2 times.). Usually, you will get the sibling feeling from cousin when you have spent too much time with them as siblings.All of our interactions happen over call. How can society and family expect me not to fall for someone, who I share such a great bonding with?

    Somewhere I do realize  that though society judges us based on our looks, I have diminished my chances by being too insecure about my height. In recent years , I have started interacting more with girls, and have come to know most of the girls are not as judgemental once they get to know you.

    Yes , Arranged marriage is quite prevalent in India. But the bad part of arranged marriage is, people first go for the looks. And yes , you are really true, that I have not even tried , as I was always too afraid of being rejected. My cousin was someone, who I could easily approach too. Besides, she is a very good human being and has always been very supportive. Whenever we talk, she gives those good vibes and  is too proud of me and that gives me great confidence as she is someone who has accepted me completely even when I have never been able to do so. She has never been concerned about my insecurities and hose things never mattered to her.

    in reply to: I fell in love with someone ,I might not be able to marry. #268813
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    Given my past, I am really very afraid.

    in reply to: I am short heighted and that bothers me too much!! #84599
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    Sure Anita :).. Thank you very much!!

    in reply to: I am short heighted and that bothers me too much!! #84569
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you very much Anita for your kind words.We tend to hide our insecurities. The more we try to hide them,more they become visible.I am really feeling great today to have poured my heart out and get such awesome responses.Right now I feel as someone has pulled down some heavy baggage from my head. I hope I could get rid of this mental baggage for my whole life.

    in reply to: I am short heighted and that bothers me too much!! #84561
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    Thank you very much ‘icedmunkie’ and ‘Moongal’ for your supportive words.I am really feeling light now after going through your posts.
    Dear Chris, As you have asked for,her height is same as mine. As far as going and saying it to her is concerned,I think it will take a lot of mental preparation from me :P.
    Moongal, it really felt great to get the perspective on men’s height from a girl itself. Its not like this negativity is always in my mind,but one tends to become over conscious about things when he is in love and keeps giving oneself all the reasons his crush would reject him(mine being a major one).
    Going forward, I know I cant change the society’s bias about this but will surely try to foucs on other positives happening in my life.

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