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  • in reply to: Really need some help #226099
    Bassy
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    In response to Anita – Thank you so much for your answer, your advice and words are very reassuring to hear. I understand that thoughts are not real and that they are not dangerous but what I find difficult is making a thought less scary.

    I refer to your following sentence: “We are more likely to think about something we don’t want to think about. We therefore have to stop fearing our thoughts instead of trying to not think.”

    I would really appreciate some suggestions that will enable me to do this. Thanks in advance 🙂

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    In response to coconut – I also want to thank you for your warm words. I appreciate that you took time out of your day to respond to my story. Luckily I do have a solid support base and I will take your advice and start journaling.

    Your following sentence really empowered me and I will write this down in my journal. “You fear the fear and that’s because of your ideas you hold ABOUT the fear. Sure, it’s uncomfortable but that’s all. Thoughts are just thoughts, you have control of your own behaviour and of your own beliefs, so work on your beliefs about fear and your thoughts. You will get relief, it’s only temporary and nothing bad will happen.”

     

    in reply to: Really need some help #226017
    Bassy
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    I completely understand your point and I should have been more specific. These are some of the examples of the stalking: taking my trash from the bin and keeping it, hiding in front of my house, writing a book about me etc. At a certain point I was fed up and I started bullying her. I would make fun of her in front of other people and often ridiculed her. I treated her like a lesser person, like trash to be really honest. These events occurred when I was 14 to 16 years old.

    In regard to my anxiety – I know that I have always had anxiety but that it was really triggered when I was 21 years old. I thought I had a medical condition, I started googling symptoms and believing them – for the next 6 months I literally thought I would die soon. Even though this sounds stupid, it really wasn’t. I think the chronic worrying started to form a foundation for other worrying. I now worry a lot about irrational things and I often have obsessive thoughts. I think about past events more in addition to worrying about future events. It’s like my brain wants me to think about things that I would rather forget.

    I don’t hold anything against myself in regard to the bullying. After all, I was a young kid who didn’t know how to deal with such a horrible situation. No kid should have to deal with something like that. I would however, like to give this a place in my life and move on.

    in reply to: It's been 1 year since I talked to my mom… #172949
    Bassy
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    Hey,

    Your story really made an impact on me. I have a really loving mom and I can’t imagine what it would be like to not have one. Life is unfair and it sucks sometimes. The fact that you are so emotionally intelligent shows me that you are not your mom. The only thing that you can do is have kids and love them as much as possible.

    Bas

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