Hi, Anita.

First of all, thank you for reading all of that. And thank you for your thoughts. I guess you are right that if the feeling truly was mutual for him, he’d at the very least be trying to reach back out. I just worry that I may have scared him off with my intensity, because after every hang out, I kind of interrogated him and tried to pick apart what we were and maybe he felt cornered? He expressed he was not ready for a relationship, but yet wanted to hang out more… and it’s hard to hang out but NOT be “talking” at least with us, I think. I mean, the days leading up to our second hang out, he texted me EVERY evening like clockwork to tell me he had gotten home from work, so I assumed we were “talking” at this point. I feel like I could maybe continue hanging out with him now knowing that there is no “talking” being done, and we are purely just getting to know each other. But yet again as I said before, he has a really hard time JUST keeping it platonic and not like a romantic interest. Otherwise, I wouldn’t even need to touch base with him after we hang out and make a big deal of it out of confusion.

So do you think it’s futile for me to offer to hang out sometime again, and voice to him that it would be just a friendship thing? I worry that him not reaching back out is either A: I scared him off because he was trying to take things slow with me (but he failed at that too). Or B: He really just wanted to hang out to hook up and now that hooking up is off the table, he’s not interested in hanging out anymore.

I think I could let go a lot easier and accept defeat if I knew there was nothing I did to sabotage this from even starting. I worry I just went too hard and he was immediately fatigued by the questioning.