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    bellpepper
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    Thank you so much Anita šŸ™‚ I take things a little too deeply even when there is no reason to. I want to get a closure with him by just having a normal chat like how he spoke funnily the first time so that it doesnt feel too weird. My only fear is will i be acting too considerate..I want to be able to just chat normally and later delete my account which anyway is a fake account. I am scared if it’ll make the situation too messy or if im thinking too deeply into things when i shouldn’t be. I have some mental health issues and I do speak to a counselor. When some situations like this happen, it stresses me even more. I constantly keep thinking if i offended another or if something strange happened which shouldn’t have and so on.

    #322717

    bellpepper
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    The more iĀ  justify the more doubts he will get for sure šŸ˜€ There could be a little attachment but its nothing serious..it just feels awkward for me..im not ready for any relationship…But i need to leave the site (which i have done several times as i have social media addiction and anxiety) but also ensure that he is not the reason..How do I do this gracefully? I am not sure if this will end in grace because one more time i msg him he may get doubts.. I remember the last time i was on this site, an older gentleman used to send good morning forwards.. When i decided to leave the site i thanked him and left and the parting seemed so natural.. Why do things get tough with men of my age..Why does gender cause so many issues..yuck! Attachment is so blinding..

    #322711

    bellpepper
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    Thanks so much both of you. Actually i pm’ed a man on a social networking site for some guidance. He happened to talk very freely like he knows me for years . He then shared his profile. I kind of acted cautious and also when he cracked a joke or two i acted anxious.. i felt so bad after that for the way i reacted i went and msged again and then I said sorry. By now things turned awkward. He thinks i have developed feelings. I am a very touchy sensitive person…I don’t do well on social networking sites. I want to leave the site because i am addicted to social media but i think there is some kind of awkwardness and i am so scared he may misunderstand if i msg him again..I don’t know why i am such a baby.. i turn things awkward for myself and others making it difficult for all involved.. i like to have a straight forward conversation and tell the truth that i really felt bad for acting cautious hence msgd the second time but obviously he may misunderstand..so i can make a mountain out of a molehill but my brain is wired that way..always on the edge and scared and worried even if there is no reason.. any suggestions on how to deal with this? this is a pattern for me but i did not know that i would get triggered like this suddenly..

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