Yes , somewhat distressing but like you said without distress sometimes peace can not be found. But overall, everything you have said until now has made complete sense. One thing I would say though is that even if people did find out, (other than the people I have told), I don’t think would feel like a fraud because I know deep down it was a mistake (a unpleasant one) , yet never the less a mistake. And at the time, I was a stupid kid. But I have full confidence that my friend will never tell anyone (btw we do not have mutual friends) but we have been friends for quite some time now.

thank you , I appreciate you taking the time to help me out immensely.

Hi again Anita,

yes, that’s not a problem. I was taught to always respect people, help out anyone if I saw that I had the ability to do so, to always look after and help out my family etc. From a religious perspective it was more so to be a kind person, to be disciplined in avoiding certain things, to always look at the positive side of life and to never be hopeless as any situation can be overcome. For me, the reason I said I feel like I am a good human being and a good man is because I have helped people in the past that have needed it (I’m not looking for any credit for this) , I always advise my friends and uplift others when they need me to do so. I’ve learnt to be more forgiving of others as no one is perfect etc. However I do understand no matter who we are we will and can always appear to be the opposite to some people.

Thank you.