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June 1, 2013 at 11:09 pm #36342
You should definitely check them out! But keep looking if they aren’t the right fit… I have tried multiple yoga classes, meditation centres and PTs before I found the right one for me, but it was worth it and it adds priceless value to my happiness 🙂June 1, 2013 at 1:05 pm #36330
If you feel like it might be overwhelming to go out to a brand new place on your own or that your paranoia might cause you distress, perhaps you could try a ‘graduated’ approach. First trip visit a place either close to home or another familiar place, maybe 10 minutes in new territory. The following week do a 15 minute jaunt outside your comfort zone, then 20 and so on. Building up might make it less overwhelming.
If you are interested in fitness, may I suggest a personal trainer? Semi private lessons can be very affordable, its a weekly commitment and I found it less intimidating because its small group size (or private if you splash extra coin). Its important to pick one with your values though, fr example when I was seeking one out I had a few key objectives: no one who suggest protein powders and chemicals love real food, no one who thinks pain is gain, someone who uses positive reinforcement and not abuse to motivate me, etc. I found a PT and now a friend in the deal, and its great stress relief getting outside in the air working my butt off.
When I couldn’t afford therapy I dropped into free guided meditation sessions at the local Buddhist temple. Meditation has helped me so much, and while I m quite outgoing, the people I met at my meditation centre were often soft spoken and introverted, which you might find familiar. I also use guided meditations on my iPod, favorutie set I keep recommending is ‘guided meditations for busy people’ by Bodhipaksa. Took me a year of doing them few times a week at least, but almost like magic I woke up a year later and could control much of my anxiety through clearing my mind, breating exercises, etc. I also sleep much better now. Might help for your paranoia/anxiety.
Hope this helps 🙂May 28, 2013 at 11:32 am #36195
For mindfullness, yoga is it for me. I’m a new yogi, but just being in a room surrounded by others completely focused on the same task as you, in the present moment, it really held me connect to myself and enjoy it. I love running too but its hard on my body and I also am careful to limit high intensity exercise in times of stress as it just does me more harm than good. Now I want to go do yoga!May 28, 2013 at 11:21 am #36192
If you can let the quinoa defrost in the fridge while at work for the day, even better!May 28, 2013 at 11:19 am #36191
Stir fry with quinoa. Whenever I cook quinoa I do it in large batches then freeze them in one cup snack size baggies. I use these for a quinoa and kidney bean pattry recipe, and for quick dinners like stir fry quinoa.
Quinoa tastes soooo good if you fry it after cooking! The nutty flavour comes out and it gets a nice crunch. For a quick dniner of stir fry with quinoa, I usually cheat by buying a bag of precut fresh stirfry veggies, but not frozen. Toss frozen quinoa in a frypan on low heat with a good amount of coconut oil, let defrost in low pan (alternatively you can microwave to defrost), then turn up heat to med high and season with papricka, garlic powder, cumin, coriander, or whatever spices you like, tossing often for 5 minutes until a little crunchy and browned. Use more oil if needed. Set aside, then chuck in your veggies on med high heat, more coconut oil, crushed garlic and diced onion or green onion if not in your mix. Toss and fry for 3-5 minutes until bright and steaming but not floppy and overcooked (the more raw the better!) I splash juice of a quarter lemon, bit of soy sauce or balsamic vinegar once off the heat. You can either mix it all up or serve the veg on top of the quinoa, a sprinkle or seeds or nuts on top is a nice finish.
Optional addition is meat of course, sometimes I will bake a fish fillet while doing the above, or I will fry tofu, or use a leftover meat up.
If you use precut stir fry veggies, and keep one cup portions of quinoa in the freezer, this is super quick, no more than 10-15 minutes and only using one pan 🙂
Its also nice for a big dinner as you can never eat too many veggies, and its a great way to use up veg.May 26, 2013 at 11:20 am #36130
Hi J, I know how you’re feeling. I have OCD as well and have issues with anxiety.
My first recommendation is to get into meditation. This is not an overnight miracle, but it is a miracle. My lifesaver was the short and sweet “guided meditations for busy people” by Bodhipaksa, you can Google and download them. I honestly did them for about a year, roughly three times a week before they started their magic, but they did. Mediation has helped me gain control of my thoughts and to stop the negative spiral.
I am feeling the job hate, I have been stuck in a job I hate for a while. I read a quote recently which said “if its not good, let it go. If it can’t go, make it good”. If you are stuck in your shitty job, consciously try to acknowledge this for what it is but don’t let it consume you. In life there will often be an area lacking that we cannot control, if we can try to accept or even embrace these imperfections it can minimise the impact they have on the other good parts (like your supportive boyfriend).
The past two years I have also tried to introduce more good, so my good to bad ratio gets better! Is there something you enjoy that you haven’t done lately? Can you seek out a new hobby, or activity or anything that can bring you joy? For me its a bit of yoga (and I tried heaps of yoga studios and teachers until I found my yoga soulmate). Yoga days, Wednesdays, are now a good day, even at my shitty job, because I have something to look forward to. I also try to play guitar at home and walk my dog, but I find the yoga (because its a scheduled thing I do each week in a social setting) provides great benefit. I also go alone and have forced myself to meet new people there. This is a chance to not be the ‘sad’ me my friends and family see, but to just try and be normal and upbeat and kind of fake it until I make it. No one there knows my past or my struggles, and that can be a very powerful environment to be in when going through a hard time.
I hope this helps.May 26, 2013 at 11:06 am #36129
If you truly want to do it, then do it! If it doesn’t work out, what is stopping you from trying something else or trying your parents suggestion afterwards?May 26, 2013 at 10:56 am #36128
Meditation has helped me with my anxiety a lot. Particularly one set of short guided meditations called “meditations for busy people” by Bodhipaksa. Honestly, I had to do them for a year before I saw the true benefits…. one day my anxiety was spiralling and, like instinct, I start doing my bresthing and calming myself down. It was such a powerful and liberating experience to stop my anxiety for the first time in my life, as like you I felt trapped and powerless. Once you make a small win like that your progress snowballs, because you realise you are capable of controlling your mid.
Be patient with yourself and keep doing small positive steps, you will overcome it I promise.May 26, 2013 at 10:44 am #36127
If you are feeling courageous, and this can be very hard, meet their bullying with kindness and forgiveness. I wouldn’t respond in email, but use this when in your face to face. You have to look in your heart to be truly kind and forgiving, because if you just pretend it will come off insincere. Perhaps they are a bully to you because they were bullied growing up, or they are threatened by you or are insecure in some way. Be compassionate to the reasons they behave the way they do, even if you do not understand it, and let that compassion let your own feelings go. It isn’t anything you have done that has caused their behavior, but something wrong inside the persons own heart. Hopefully understanding this can make your own hurt heal.
If you are up for it: When you are feeling emotionally strong, say a kind word or a small compliment to them if something genuine arises. It may not work, but if it does it might melt that aggressiveness they have towards you. If it doesn’t work, the others around will see the kind approach you have taken and you can at least feel that you have done the right and gentle thing in a tough situation.