Dear Anita,

Sorry for  my short reply.What I mean possessive I was not allowed to dress what I liked  was not allowed to go out with friends ,was not allowed to get a car licence  and was not allowed to take trips by my own.

The second affair was based on going out during my days off and a few hours after work while he was still at work,and chatting .

The first affair was someone i worked with so we  use to see each other everyday.

Yes when i spoke to him about the problem he denies it.When I asked him if he had any affairs he says no.

Yes I told him about the affairs cause ,I thought we are starting a new  life together.He accepted the situation but when we fight he mention my past ,and tells me to go back to my x boyfriend.We went three times to a therapist but still it did not work.He says I am the problem,and its me who needs therapy not him.He says he is fine and he is a loyal man and has nothing to be fixed.

Hope I made you understand a bit more my situation.

Bunny

Dear Anita:

Yes the first part of the story is as you wrote.

And yes i am still in contact with the second affair .We have known each other for nine years and at the beginning of our relationship he was aggressive e.g. he kept me closed in his bedroom flat against my wish .He tried to scare me by taking me in the dark where no people pass by and took my mobile not to be able to contact anyone .

Not the past year he was aggressive in the beginning of the relationship.

I am afraid that my son will not talk to me since I have left so many times.Yes he lives with his wife but he has his workshop in the house where we live.So he comes every day .

Bunny