Kittycat,

I get it. I just ended a painful relationship as well. I never caught him cheating but I suspected it. I couldn’t eat nor sleep half the time wondering what he was doing, where he was etc. He said I had trust issues and I did because I was the other woman in previous relationships. It’s a terrible place to be in and b/c of this I PROMISED myself and GOD I would NEVER be the other woman again. Just think about how bad you are hurting NOW imagine HIS WIFE finding out about you? The woman he made a VOW before GOD to. Imagine how SHE would feel? Would you EVER really trust him if he left HER for YOU? (No… you wouldn’t most likely). And he would possibly do the same to you. YOU DESERVE better!! Your OWN man. YES it hurts but get on with YOUR life. Get out, travel, join the gym, a church, a club, take a class. ETC. There are SINGLE men everywhere. ACTIONS speak louder than words so if he REALLY wanted to be with you he would. BUT don’t stick around wasting your time and your life on someone who is aletaken. I am not sure if you are religious or spiritual but there is a quote that says “GOD will NEVER send you someone else husband!” And that is the truth. GOOD luck… HUGS!!!

Butterfly

CMI & Anita,

UGH!!! So I was doing so good with not responding to his generic texts (which before I would have). So this morning he sent me three texts being mean….something he hasn’t really done before. He actually said “don’t bother to reply, I don’t care that much.” as the last an final text. That hurt even though it shouldn’t. MY friend said he only said that because he is actually hurt that I have been ignoring his texts. But Now I am stressed out again. I added him back in my contacts just so I could block is number again. I am afraid if and what he will send next. I am just confused if he doesn’t give a damn about me (STILL NOC ACTUALL calls just 5 texts messages in three weeks). WHY bother being mean now?? I have to be honest I REALLY wanted to fire back at him and say how can you be upset with me because I pulled a YOU on You?? You frequently ignored me in our relationship so YOU caused me to now ignore you and now you want to ATTACK me for it? Please I don’t want us to be enemies. I just want it to be over amicacably if that’s possible. Should I just keep him blocked and ignore his tirades? Or respond by saying there is no needs to be mean a vicious. Lets just part ways without all the negativity? Thanks!

Butterfly

Hello CMI,

Yes…. Although I am getting over him and it is getting easier dya by day. I am with you. AT this point I know I shouldn’t care but part of me see’s him as a Darth Vadar type (Bad but with good still in him). When we were together most of the time he was wonderful so it’s just hard for me to believe sometimes that it was all just a façade. I think he is a damaged person who does not know how to love “correctly”. At times he was so loving & caring but I can only assume it was part of his sociopathic charm. I still pray for him everyday and although he crushed me I struggle with still loving & caring for him and hating him for what he did to me. And yes it is a very hard pill to swallow. I just have to keep reminding myself that I am surely not the only person he as victimized he is very good and has probably had lots of practice before me so I shouldn’t be so hard on myself that I “fell” for it all. I am hoping he will leave me alone asap so I can completely move on. I think he sends the texts just so I will not forget him. How cruel. GOD help me. Thank you! I am trying!!

Butterfly

Anita,

Thank you for your response. Yes his behavior did make me crazy, anxious & sick. He doesn’t deserve me and as you said I have to move on for good. I am doing well with no contact and have deleted him from my phone. Hopefully he won’t decide to try to “re-appear” but I will ignore him if/when he does. When I do think about him I just pray. I have gotten a new job, joined a new church and Joined the gym. I am working on me and I know I will be fine in time. Thank you!

Butterfly