The date I was on last week, is actually the first date that I had since this winter. While I was comparing this recent first date to the first date I had with the guy I dated this winter, it made me miss the good time we had together. However, I realized I might just miss the idea of what could have been between us and the fact that we just weren’t compatible. I am also moving 2 hours away and it might not be the best idea right now. He had some good qualities, but also other qualities I do not want in a future partner. I just want to thank you for replying Anita, because I do think my childhood wounds had an impact with the future between me and this guy. However I don’t want to dishonor myself by dating a guy that I know is not right for me and I also want to honor myself and the decision I made this winter when I ended it with this guy. I have reflected a lot today and have figured out that it is for the best that I just let this situation stay in the past. I am sure there are other men out there that is a better match for me and will make me feel safe. I appreciate that you took the time to reply to my post, it means a lot.

Okay, thank you so much for both of the replies. It means a lot to hear others point of views. If I decide to message him it’s not to necessarily ask to be friends, but I just want to hear how he’s doing with his job and life in general. I don’t expect him to send a super long message if he decides to reply. However, I feel like I need to think more about sending a message. Maybe the past is the past, and I should just leave it at that.

Thanks for replying, it means a lot. I feel very excited about my move and meeting new people. However, I had a ‘not so good’ first date a couple of days ago and this morning I got a notification that the guy I’m writing about just made a new Snapchat user. It made me think about our happy moments together and I was thinking it was a sign from the universe that I should message him.I feel like when I am lonely, I sometimes forget all the «bad» things and only focus on happy moments though, so I am not sure if that’s the reason why I want to reconnect.