Are they this way with everyone? He seems fairly passive. Not that this advice will make you feel better.. but. Your parents are not perfect. And we can’t expect our parents to be. Was your father raised in a loving home? What was his life like? I’m almost certain that his past is what created who he is today, it goes that way for all of us. It’s just a matter of fact that some of us don’t want to be a part of a pattern, we want more. So what do you do? Accept your father and stepmother for who they are. I think at this point you really need to find some sort of peace (for yourself and your family) so you can be okay with how they treat you. Not saying you’re permitting their behavior, but you’ll get to a point where it won’t surprise you what they have to say (or lack there of) and you’ll be okay with it. It’s a painful process, I find myself really struggling to let go of some things my parents have done. It’s not easy to do but nothing worth doing is. Sometimes reading all kinds of books and articles just doesn’t help. I think facing things head on is a good way to go about it. Good luck and remember some times people do things the way they do them because that’s all they know.

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