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  • November 6, 2016 at 1:31 am #119740
    Erin
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    Thank you for sharing @Mishika that is great advice to start focusing on who I am, what I want & my goals. I was so caught up in focusing on the how and why rather than brining these ideas into my subconscious and having faith & belief.

    I checked out your site, it’s very inspiring, wonderful work.

    Thanks you again
    Grace

    November 5, 2016 at 11:48 pm #119729
    Erin
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    Hi Nina,

    Thank you for your response to my post, it’s great to hear your perspective. I’m aware that us humans all go through similar struggles but it really helps to voice it and learn from the experiences of others.

    When you asked what am I afraid of, things going wrong? That struck a chord in me. Even just that question what are my deepest fears? scares me. I guess when I say I’m fearful of things going wrong I am talking about my need to often maintain control over how things unfold. I sometimes find it hard to just let things be & I over analyse everything about the situation, including what others will think of me. So I guess in that way I hold myself back because I’m afraid of failing.

    I agree I also put immense pressure on myself and It’s so true what you said about forgetting all the time it took to get to this place, we are always growing. I also agree we all do care what others think to some extent, but like you said it’s important to find the balance and do what is right for ourselves.

    Thank you again for sharing, it has helped put things in perspective and look at taking each day at a time, accepting the good with the bad. 🙂

    November 5, 2016 at 8:07 pm #119725
    Erin
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    Hello iymstuck,

    I was given this advice not that long ago from my counsellor in regards to my motivation levels & the pressure I was putting on myself to meditate, exercise and self care etc. I was finding that the more pressure I put on myself to have serious discipline, the less motivated I would become & then the less I would do. It became a vicious cycle and started to get me really down and feel like I was failing.

    She explained to me that when you are constantly pressuring yourself to do mediation, got to the gym etc, you begin to take the joy and meaning out of these things & instead it feels like a chore. We need to be kind to ourselves as we don’t feel motivated 100% of the time and that’s ok. It’s ok if one week you meditate 5 times and the next week only once or not at all, same as the gym. I have been learning to listen to my body and what it needs during that time, mediation is also great to help you develop this skill.

    So my advice, from my experience would be most importantly be kind to yourself, don’t judge or guilt yourself. Do things you enjoy, when they feel right, set yourself manageable goals, but don’t beat yourself up if some days you fall short. I have found mediation has bought great benefits & I am learning to enjoy it more and more.

    I hope this helps
    Erin 🙂

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