Hello Helcat,

Let me get back to your questions.

We kind of went through a lot of discussions before we reached to this temporary break. We agreed to review this a month later.

I think somehow, i proposed this initially but we decided it it too much, we tried for around a month but eventually we feel we had a bit too much negativity, and we decided to take a break. I asked about the time frame, and whether we completely not contacted, and she said a month and may be not contacting is best, as we had some expectation mismatch(i expected her this, and she expected me that) while we were trying

i don’t think culturally it is that bad, I live in Hong Kong, so it is not THAT bad in here being gay. Just that being a chinese, there are still taboo etc which makes it harder for gay couples.

I keep telling me that she will honour our agreement, while deep down I have a lot of insecurity bubbling.

I can expect this will be a difficult month

Best wishes

Chau

Hi Anita,

No rush. I saw you posted a message in my last thread and sorry for missing that out!

Yes i was having some problem back in 2016 as well. It’s great to read what I did and how I have grown since then. I was re-reading my posts about my current partner, it does seem things go back in circle and looks like something didn’t really change.

Anyways, thanks for your good advice as always.

Have a good restful night

Dear Roberta

I do find myself feeding those negatives. I think my lesson for this month is to deal with my insecurity, which has been affecting me for a while. I am sensitive and sometime overthink, and I believe this may cause stress to my partner also.

I am thinking to go therapy to clear my minds and see what insights I can get.

Thanks for the books recommended, will look into it

Chau