Hi memm,

I can relate to what you are feeling at the current moment. You are eager to get into a relationship which in your point of view might cure your lonely soul. Perhaps you may also feel pressured to get into relationship due to peer pressure as I may understand that many guys friends around your age might be involved in a steady relationship whilst you are still struggling to find one. Please do not be in a hurry to find love. You will end up being more desperate or even end up with the wrong girl whom may risk breaking your heart or you breaking hers. Trust me, your soul mate will eventually turn up when the time is right. Nevertheless you should also play your part. Remember, “There will be no gain without pain” right? Sounds familiar? Here are some pointers for you to consider and ask yourself;

i. What kind of person are you? Social type or quiet type. If you are the quiet type, you may consider volunteering through your university as such that you may be able to meet more new people and girls who may share your common interest. As for the social type, try using your eloquent charm to engage new people you meet in various events. You may stand a chance to catch someone’s eye. Good sense of humor is a sexy thing for a guy!
ii. How about your overall health or physical outlook. Are you wearing the correct clothes for the occasion? How about changing your outfit or physical looks or event the way you present yourself to others? Are you fit? I’m not prejudice about the external outlook as I truly support the notion of inner beauty but good first impression by attire counts too.
iii. University might be tough at times with many assignments and deadlines not counting small test and exams thus you may not have time for some social events. How about trying to reschedule your time? You may consider drafting your events into a planner book.

You are still young and there are lots of opportunities out there for you. So do not feel down or sad if you are still not in a relationship despite having tried many possible things cause there are more things in life for you to explore and experience besides being in a relationship. I’m sure you are a wonderful young man!