Hello Anita,

yeah, I think I know what you meant.

I have never been really proactive when it comes to communication, either personally or professionally. Thank you for pointing that out. I think that may be what’s missing in me and definitely something I can work on more in the fufure.

I guess I just wanted to show my respect by not coming off to aggressive or nosy? I am not sure how most people perceive this but it has been the reason why I have chosen to be passive.

Hello Anita,

so he texted me back. It was a fairly long message. He was very apologetic. Long story short, he explained that he couldn’t give me what I was looking for, which I totally understand.

I thought about leaving it at that since I didn’t really know what to say. But at the same time, I didn’t want to ignore him as well. I wanted to stay friends because after a week of cooling time, I have already moved on and come to the realization that there’s no way I could force anything to happen. I just wanted to go with the flow. If we can end up being friends, that will be great.

Hello anita

he hasn’t got back to me at all. I feel I am being ghosted. Maybe it’s too early to say but I honestly think he will just disappear without a word. I am kinda shocked because he was showing so much affection towards me. I thought at least he would have some decency to end things properly. Perhaps he felt we were never official so there’s so need to “end”’since there was never a “beginning?”

Anyways. He did show me his true colors and I think at this point, I should just move on and assure no time on this man.

Thank you for listening.

• This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by Connie.

Hello Anita

Since the weather had been getting colder and colder everyday, I texted him telling him I’d appreciate if he could drop my stuff (mostly my winter clothes) as soon as possible.

He then contacted my friend and said he didn’t want me to be cold if I had no other clothes. He dropped the stuff at the gate of my friend’s house and just drive away when he saw my friend. He didn’t say anything. We didn’t have the chance to let him know immediately that that was not everything. But I figured that’s enough since the rest of the stuff wasn’t worth the hassle (contacting him and asking him to drop more stuff).

infelt kinda sad when I knew he’s gonna drop my stuff with my friend. But I have taken it quite well to be honest. I can finally move on and leave the rest behind. It gives me peace.

• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by Connie.

i think the main reason I am still struggling is I haven’t let go of him and still have some hope of getting back together.

He emailed me back yesterday telling me he still has my stuff in the storage.

I have done something that made the whole situation worse. I basically ruined our last chance of reconciliation.

Still I can’t control myself and do things without much thinking.

Hello anita

thanks for your feedback.

I actually had my friend contact him by text and also emailed him to let him know he could arrange the pickup with my friend directly. He still ignored her text. So I sent him another email telling him to arrange the pick up before certain time for my friend. He ignored that too.

I did want to keep the channel open only for retrieving my stuff. I had no intention to rekindle whatsoever. But he probably doesn’t see it that way.

I have to confess I am quite emotional in this case because he promised me to take care of my stuff and now what he has been doing doesn’t make any sense.

I stopped by his place today but he wouldn’t meet me nor talk to me. I guess the only I can do is to let go.

It’s been exact six weeks of no contact. I thought it’d get easier and easier, but lately I found myself miss him a lot.

I still have thoughts like “how did it happen?” “Why are we strangers now?”

And the past memories start hitting me hard, too. Like everything reminds me of him.

I know we broke up for a reason and we need this time to grow. It just makes me sad that he’s no longer around.