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  • in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #282119
    Connie
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    Hello Anita

    Thanks for your advice. It was two days ago when he last texted me. The convo ended on a good note, he was complimenting the picture I sent him last week. We didn’t have any communication after that.

    I noticed that I have been waiting to hear from him since, even though I know he’s not available for me. I don’t want to initiate contact either because after all, he ghosted me once. I pretty much moved on before he resurfaced. But now I feel like I am back in square one.

    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #281969
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    yeah, I think I know what you meant.

    I have never been really proactive when it comes to communication, either personally or professionally. Thank you for pointing that out. I think that may be what’s missing in me and definitely something I can work on more in the fufure.

    I guess I just wanted to show my respect by not coming off to aggressive or nosy? I am not sure how most people perceive this but it has been the reason why I have chosen to be passive.

    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #281911
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    honestly, I don’t think he specified very carefully.

    He said he realized we were not align on where we stand in a relationship.

    I was really confused with the message but I just took it as he’s not available regardless.

    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #281839
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    so he texted me back. It was a fairly long message. He was very apologetic. Long story short, he explained that he couldn’t give me what I was looking for, which I totally understand.

    I thought about leaving it at that since I didn’t really know what to say. But at the same time, I didn’t want to ignore him as well. I wanted to stay friends because after a week of cooling time, I have already moved on and come to the realization that there’s no way I could force anything to happen. I just wanted to go with the flow. If we can end up being friends, that will be great.

    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #280967
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita,

    Yeah, I will definitely keep that in mind. I didn’t want to fall so fast, that’s why I kept telling him I would like to take things slow. Now he disappeared, it just kinda explained he never meant to have any relationship with me.

    I really thought he was a nice person. I was so wrong about that.

    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #280741
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello anita

    he hasn’t got back to me at all. I feel I am being ghosted. Maybe it’s too early to say but I honestly think he will just disappear without a word. I am kinda shocked because he was showing so much affection towards me. I thought at least he would have some decency to end things properly. Perhaps he felt we were never official so there’s so need to “end”’since there was never a “beginning?”

    Anyways. He did show me his true colors and I think at this point, I should just move on and assure no time on this man.

    Thank you for listening.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 10 months ago by Connie.
    in reply to: I don't know if I should keep pursuing #280653
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello anita

    Thank you for getting back to me. After some thoughts, I decided to end things with him. Based on the recent interactions, I honestly don’t think he’s vibing with me. His texts are short and simple. I know texts are not supposed to be the only thing we look into in relationships.  But he didn’t show any interest in knowing how I was doing. Not to mention it took him a long time to get back to my messages.

    I know it’s still very early. However, I have been having anxiety over this. I haven’t been able to sleep and eat well. I didn’t even have the strength to do my yoga. It’s not just going well, it’s becoming unhealthy.

    I offered him a way out (in case he’s really busy and occupied and also maybe he didn’t know how to reject me) by asking him if he’s lost interest, I would exit and not make a fuss.

    I think that’s the best thing I can do. It probably will take him another day to get back to me. But I am practicing my patience. So it’s all good.

    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #182079
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita

    Since the weather had been getting colder and colder everyday, I texted him telling him I’d appreciate if he could drop my stuff (mostly my winter clothes) as soon as possible.

    He then contacted my friend and said he didn’t want me to be cold if I had no other clothes. He dropped the stuff at the gate of my friend’s house and just drive away when he saw my friend. He didn’t say anything. We didn’t have the chance to let him know immediately that that was not everything. But I figured that’s enough since the rest of the stuff wasn’t worth the hassle (contacting him and asking him to drop more stuff).

     

    infelt kinda sad when I knew he’s gonna drop my stuff with my friend. But I have taken it quite well to be honest. I can finally move on and leave the rest behind. It gives me peace.

    • This reply was modified 7 years ago by Connie.
    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #181031
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello Anita

    i was silent because I didn’t want to talk about this and sink myself in this thought of hating him.

    A bit update:

    two weeks ago he responded to my emails and said he would be available to drop off my stuff within a week. I have been waiting and haven’t heard anything back from him. I emailed him to let him know he could drop off my stuff at my friends house which is only 20 blocks away, along with my friend’s phone number. Up to this day we still haven’t heard anything from him.

    I started to realize that he just didn’t even care anymore. How could this ever happen to me? Why can’t he just be responsive and put in a slight effort to contact my friend regarding the drop off? I need my stuff back so badly. I even tried being friendly with him and tell him it’d be nice just to have a final closure by getting my stuff back for good.

    His ignorance is really disappointing. Regardless of what happened between us, it doesn’t make any sense to hold on my stuff like this, especially when I really need them.

    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #179429
    Connie
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    i think the main reason I am still struggling is I haven’t let go of him and still have some hope of getting back together.

    He emailed me back yesterday telling me he still has my stuff in the storage.

    I have done something that made the whole situation worse. I basically ruined our last chance of reconciliation.

    Still I can’t control myself and do things without much thinking.

     

    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #179247
    Connie
    Participant

    I guess I am still in shock.

    I know there are people who are liars and don’t keep their promises. I just can’t believe I met one who happened to be my ex boyfriend.

    Its so disappointing and sad. I mean why on earth did he have to treat me like this? I am sorry, I am still angry. I just need to vent.

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 1 month ago by Connie.
    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #179203
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello anita

    thanks for your feedback.

    I actually had my friend contact him by text and also emailed him to let him know he could arrange the pickup with my friend directly. He still ignored her text. So I sent him another email telling him to arrange the pick up before certain time for my friend. He ignored that too.

    I did want to keep the channel open only for retrieving my stuff. I had no intention to rekindle whatsoever. But he probably doesn’t see it that way.

    I have to confess I am quite emotional in this case because he promised me to take care of my stuff and now what he has been doing doesn’t make any sense.

    I stopped by his place today but he wouldn’t meet me nor talk to me. I guess the only I can do is to let go.

    in reply to: Help! Getting stuff back from ex bf #179141
    Connie
    Participant

    Hello

    Thanks for the feedback.

    I am just surprised that he went totally silent regarding this matter. He was quite responsive about it two months ago.

    I have no idea whether he still keeps my stuff or not. I think I am kinda sad, for the possible loss of my possessions and for how things have developed to this day.

     

    in reply to: Ex being friendly #173655
    Connie
    Participant

    It’s been exact six weeks of no contact. I thought it’d get easier and easier, but lately I found myself miss him a lot.

    I still have thoughts like “how did it happen?” “Why are we strangers now?”

    And the past memories start hitting me hard, too. Like everything reminds me of him.

    I know we broke up for a reason and we need this time to grow. It just makes me sad that he’s no longer around.

     

    in reply to: Ex being friendly #173227
    Connie
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Four months is the longest time I have been single since 2011. I used to get myself involved with other men or in a new relationship right after one.

    I feel I have lost all desire to date, and can’t even imagine myself being together with any man anymore.

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