Well, that’s a trick question. He might feel bad about our relationship and could get really sad. I Know he will try to understand but I am afraid that I may hurt him by telling him about the whole situation.

Hi, First of all, I would like to thank Anita, Dee, Kat, and JayJay for replying. I appreciate your efforts. Now, I will come back to Anita. So, step by step, I think I am not physically attracted to my husband anymore but to be specific, I enjoy physical intimacy with him. And my husband and I were in a relationship for six years before we got married, so, no it was not out of parent’s pressure. He understands me. We are like the soulmates. I think I am in love with two people at a time. And that is pretty much possible. Isn’t it?

I love this guy (my guy friend) because he is funny, respects me, and attractive too. I am not looking for any future with him, but I want him to be a part of my life till the end of it. And I fear I won’t be able to have him once he gets married and will also not be right for his wife’s part. But, what can I do? I love him so much. And cannot deny the physical attraction both from his and my end as well.

Right now he is not in a relationship and neither looking for one, but someday he will get married. I fear will his feelings remain same or change for me once he gets married. Because if his feelings change for me, I will be hurt. I am not the person who can take relationship casually. So, pretty messed up right now. Please help.

Dear Anita, Thanks for replying and reverting. See, that’s the confusion. I am not sure about certain things whether I must get physical with him or stop being in contact with him because I am married. Or should I stop talking to him once I get married or just go with the flow. I am confused. On one side I just feel like fulfilling the desires of my heart like continue talking to him, healthy flirting or get physical but on the contrary, I feel the burden of morality where I must suddenly stop being in contact with him as any contact between us lead to sexual tension. But I fear by doing so I will alsi lose a friend in him who really cares for me. Plese enlighten.