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    Hi Anita, Yes, I believe it is possible to be in love with 2 people at a time and desiring both physical and emotional intimacy with them. I also know that I would have to let my feelings for my guy friend dissolve but I just don’t know how to do that. It hurts to even think of cutting contacts with him but if I don’t do so that might create problems for him and his spouse once he gets married. Because to be honest I cannot deny the physical attraction I have for him and for sure it is not going to dissolve itself.

    All I know is he is a really good friend I cannot afford to lose. And that’s the biggest problem in our relationship.

    #145175
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    Well, that’s a trick question. He might feel bad about our relationship and could get really sad. I Know he will try to understand but I am afraid that I may hurt him by telling him about the whole situation.

    #145069
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    I haven’t told my husband about this. I am afraid how will he react..

    #145061
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    Hi, First of all, I would like to thank Anita, Dee, Kat, and JayJay for replying. I appreciate your efforts. Now, I will come back to Anita. So, step by step, I think I am not physically attracted to my husband anymore but to be specific, I enjoy physical intimacy with him. And my husband and I were in a relationship for six years before we got married, so, no it was not out of parent’s pressure. He understands me. We are like the soulmates. I think I am in love with two people at a time. And that is pretty much possible. Isn’t it?

    I love this guy (my guy friend) because he is funny, respects me, and attractive too. I am not looking for any future with him, but I want him to be a part of my life till the end of it. And I fear I won’t be able to have him once he gets married and will also not be right for his wife’s part. But, what can I do? I love him so much. And cannot deny the physical attraction both from his and my end as well.

    Right now he is not in a relationship and neither looking for one, but someday he will get married. I fear will his feelings remain same or change for me once he gets married. Because if his feelings change for me, I will be hurt. I am not the person who can take relationship casually. So, pretty messed up right now. Please help.

    #144933
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    And I did try to discontinue any sort od contact with him in the past. I was able to do it for 2-3 months but then he texted me and said he really misses me and all. He promised we will continue as a friend but the spark between us is too bright that we cannot stay just friends. There is this strange romantic angle between us that surfaces every once in a while.

    #144931
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    Dear Anita, Thanks for replying and reverting. See, that’s the confusion. I am not sure about certain things whether I must get physical with him or stop being in contact with him because I am married. Or should I stop talking to him once I get married or just go with the flow. I am confused. On one side I just feel like fulfilling the desires of my heart like continue talking to him, healthy flirting or get physical but on the contrary, I feel the burden of morality where I must suddenly stop being in contact with him as any contact between us lead to sexual tension. But I fear by doing so I will alsi lose a friend in him who really cares for me. Plese enlighten.

    #144829
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    Situation for the lifetime..

    Hi, I am a 29 years old woman and been married for two years. Currently, I am in a situation which I wouldn’t call sad or so, but it bothers me sometimes. I love my husband and living a simple and satisfied life with him, but on the other side, I am in love with a guy who is also a friend of mine. He also loves me and has the same feelings for me. I was attracted to him before I got married and confessed as well, but then he moved to abroad and we kind of lost touch and chemistry we had as friends. But after six months of my marriage, we got back in touch and gained back the chemistry we had earlier in no time. We fight over calls and texts all the time but then get back together because we both just complete each other’s life. I also met him when he came back on holidays, and we enjoyed each other’s company. This time he also reciprocated the romantic feelings he has for me and even showed the desire to develop the physical and intimate relationship.

    So the current situation is we both love each other and long for the physical intimacy but never had it due to long distance thing. And we might get physical too if we get the right time and place. But it is not just about getting physical. There is so much more to this relationship. On the other side, I love my husband too, and things are completely fine between us. So now what bothers me is if tomorrow this guy (my guy friend) gets married and have a life of his own will I be able to detach myself from him or should I just live in the present? I am confused.

    We both adore each other as friends and cannot live without talking for too long. But the sexual tension between us sometimes makes me think too deeply about my and his future. Please don’t judge me and suggest something that could help in literally.

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