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  • August 29, 2018 at 7:24 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223661
    Dorothee
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    Hi Brandy,

    I will be commuting this year, so my concern is that I might not be able to fully experience a typical frosh week as people living on res. Of course I also want to party but I also wanna meet people who are there for a long time, not just a good time.

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    August 28, 2018 at 3:11 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223477
    Dorothee
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    Hi Brandy,

    Thank you for all of the helpful advice. 🙂

    I am looking forward for Uni, and you are completely right about just being myself when making friends. Once school starts I will also get involved with student services as they offer counselling for free. The only thing that concerns me is the fact that it still hurts whenever I think abut the past, even though I know it is over and time for me to move on. What usually happens during frosh week of Uni? will I go to parties? is it as fun as everyone else says it is?

    August 28, 2018 at 3:01 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223475
    Dorothee
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    Hi RevRy,

    Thank you for the response. My main focus for university is to obviously earn the highest marks I can but I also want to have fun at the same time. I am really eager to make new friends and form new relationships. Although I am excited for this in the future, it still hurts a lot whenever I think about the past, even if I know it is over and time for me to move on.

    August 28, 2018 at 10:53 am in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223435
    Dorothee
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    Hi Brandy,

    yes, I have tried meditating every day in the past, but during those times my anxiety seems to catch me off guard. I try doing some hobbies such as baking or drawing to ease my mind instead. I will return to uni in the fall and I fear being alone even when surrounded by people. Is it easy to make friends? Will I find a better partner?

    August 27, 2018 at 7:28 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223323
    Dorothee
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    Dear Prash,

    nowadays I handle my anxiety with more control. Before, I used to let it consume my mind and remind me of what it felt like to be abandoned again. I still get heavy panic attacks throughout the day. another thing that gives me anxiety is the fact that my ex is very easily influenced. before he met me a few friends of his talked him into doing drugs. just thinking of him doing them shatters my heart and gives me immense anxiety. although this is not of my concern with him anymore, the thought of it still hurts quite a lot. what should I do?

    August 27, 2018 at 7:24 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223321
    Dorothee
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    Hi Brandy,

    I believe counselling will help me a lot. even if I know that I do not deserve to be treated badly, I still tried my best for him. Although being with him made me unhappy, part of me still decided to stay because of my fear of being alone.

    August 27, 2018 at 12:27 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223275
    Dorothee
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    Hi Brandy,

    he treated me badly, which is why I never really felt good enough for him. The fact that I deal with heavy anxiety everyday and I also happened to be a victim of an abusive relationship with a parent during my childhood does not seem to effect the way he still treated me. I always felt as if I was the bad one in the relationship and I was always the one suffering, I just kept it all hidden away.

    August 27, 2018 at 9:39 am in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223249
    Dorothee
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    Hi Prash,

    its not that I actually hate myself, it’s just the feeling that I was never good enough for this person when he treated me badly.

    August 26, 2018 at 7:02 pm in reply to: I can't let go of my toxic relationship #223157
    Dorothee
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    hi Brandy,

    it is true, I have a fear of not having a partner in my older years. I guess my one reason for always getting back together with him is because without a a partner, I feel as if a part of my heart is missing. I also do not entirely hate myself, its just that whenever we fight or break up, I always feel rejected and feel as if I was never good enough for them, although the signs are very clear that he was a toxic person in my life.

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