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darrebParticipantWell i had sort of the same thing just happen to me with a 47 year old i know how it feels but not in the way you described there are good ones out there but are hard to find You are young The two months thing i had over 5 months and got it via facebook had to wait 3 days these people are no good at all but you have youth on yourside… Just keep your guard up and Go nice and easy ..
darrebParticipantYeap def will lesson learned and leart hard and well ..
darrebParticipantI will take that def on board and move onwards and fwrds and see how i can work on it life is too short but if you fall for someone and they felt t he same way then decide they dont your left wondering was i conned i guess i never know that at all ..
darrebParticipantWell for instance trying to please everyone else before myself in reltionship stauts my emotions go all over the place esp if i fall for that woman if i feel something aint right i shall say its it me what i have a done stuff like that …Soft and Emotinonal all over the place i feel hurt angry even though it aint my fault sometimes when i do or say something wrong im very quick to appoligse ..
Hence back to the woman she new i was on anti D And knew how vunerable i was after first time and that there was my downfall to soft
i dont know what other way to put it all i know is i need to love myself first and foremost but its hard
darrebParticipantSome people have no feelings though and can turn them off and dont feel no guilt at all
darrebParticipantI take things to heart to much i try to give out to much love somtimes needy i though i had met the perfect woman but was not to be i took 2 weeks off because of this got back together but she decided to finnsh it via facebook
Did say i was not her type but decided she wanted to try and i did say if you had told me that in the first place we would never have been at this stage for me but thats done i keep re doing the past and i want to stop it punnshing myself for stuff
darrebParticipantNo i was in a 12 year Reltionship Brought her 4 kids up then we had our own split up last march but we still get on i was fine …
I met someone just for 2 weeks we finnshed it ok …
After that i met somebody and she endend it via facebook making me wait a few days i prefer face to face but she changed from one night ok to the next putting a pillow over her face so she didnot have to look at me made me feel crap if i was a bigger man i would have got up then and there and told her where to go back and fowards i was suppose to get weights of her last week but she changed her mind making excusses but its done..
Hence this woman that i met for 2 weeks came back to me and she came over last week was too soon i dont really drink and treated her like crap i totally appogised for it i think it was too soon i am a nice guy too soft to emiontonal and have to control it i have to move fwd and stop living in the past and thinking what if this and that i aint made that way thats my problem …Hope you understand a bit better now…
darrebParticipantNo im 42 the woman was 47 i was in a 12 year relationship brought someones 4 kids up then had our own we spilt up but still get on i had a 2 week thing that finnshed ok then met antoher that was 5 months near and i think that one hit me the hardest but im still young i suppose and im too soft inside i have to be harder and stop punshing myself you cant undo stuff and have to stop living in the past and i do it all the time and its hard to focus and move on but it def aint healthy some days are good some are bad I just think im not hard enough in that sense and just to vunerable but i have a 10 year old boy whom im going abroad with i did spent that on the other woman but changed his to his name this is a big lesson and its one i have to never make again … i normally do weights at the gym which im going back to tommoro going to do a day at a time i cant controll socail media facebook so i tend to stay off it now
darrebParticipantWell im on anti depressants needy as in if i didnot get a text back or call i would not be happy i did tell this person that but same time she was not nice lying in bed putting a pillow over her face turning away from me she knew i was vunreable but did that and at 47 you think you would act better but ive learned a hard lesson and one that admits it and guilt has to stop making these mistakes ite been a hard year and i think i have to just stop looking at let it find you dateing sites can be full of damaged goods and if you go full in with your heart on your sleeve thats what happens i suppose ….
darrebParticipantCan Agree spot on there Spend love on yourself and show someone what you have is someone liked you they would talk and help through problems
darrebParticipantTotaly understand these stories aye myself have just been through something similar and last tuesday i cut the circle by getting rid off facebook so i can no longer contact this person who would just like the point of contact to wheel you in and then spit you out i made mistakes but i admit them but the red flags were there they say always go with your gut feeling and i didnot i found this site and as days go on it will get eaiser but for one will never contact this woman again i agree with the no feelings or guilt at all part hence at her age 47 near you think they be mature a little but i wore my heart on my sleeve and thats what happend never change who you are someone will like you people like that in my experince will one day do something wrong but you and i will have moved on its damm hard but the more ammo you give them the better it is for them but i took the big break to escape from facebook i will never contact that person again and have to look at it as a lucky escape … Cheers Darren
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