I have been in a similar situation recently. And yes, just like you i was focusing on myself. It was hard to keep a positive mind when the memories keep knocking on the back door of head. Still, i tried hard to be positive and it worked many a times. Things were worse and I didn’t know what to do with my future as my vision about future was really blurry.

I decided to take a trip to Russia. I always wanted to explore that country and off course it was a first foreign trip so it was supposed to be exciting affair. Again just like you, I was not feeling that much excited about that trip. It was my decision to make that trip happen and everyone from my family was excited except me. I really didnt plan what would I do there, the places to visit and what can i get our of this trip. Anyway i went ahead and traveled to Russia.

It took me just few hours to get out of the fame optimism and feel the real positive attitude. It was a fascinating experience. I met great people. Had some great funny incidents and met many other girls. And most important, every moment I was developing the vision of my future. I made many good friends there so didn’t hesitate to include them in my future vision. I drew a completely different life what i have every imagined to live.

So, focus on this trip. You are going to meet a very different culture and a life. Enjoy what you have and let it go what happened in the past.

All The Best!

Hi Molly,

Its hard to move on with the person whom you have loved, no matter what conditions that person created to finish the relationship. In relationships sometimes people take other partner for granted. The way you had been able to ignore his activities right from the start, he felt that he can create more space for those things and thus it got escalated. You were right on your part but he couldn’t make better of it because he was having some problems. The way you described it, he is into you as he was looking for “just sex, no relationships”. People got problems and there is solution for everything. I am not sure if you still got that place for him in your heart but you should give him at least a friendly support to get out of this addiction, porn or sex whatever it is. Hope he will also try to improve himself and it will take some good time.

I have been in such a situation, not related to porn but something else and just like him I had nobody to support me. I had to fight it myself and believe me its hard. So, just be friend with him at the moment. He must be gentle enough to understand the situation and will look for improving himself to get you back in life.

If you are still in love with him then its the Testing Times for your love to see how strong it is. Quitting is an option but not the solution. Look for solution. Talk and open up, things will go better if he wants to.