Dear anita,

Thank you for answering and your kind words. And thank you for telling me about your own experiences and im happy to hear that you overcame your own challenges.

I know that you are right about me dreamingly ignoring ,,problematic expressions and behaviours”. Im just struggling to not blame myself for that too.

Im still working on seeing my ex as who she was, sometimes i get the feeling that i can see things as they really were, and sometimes the hate-spiral you described catches up to me.

Thank you for telling me that i did the right thing by breaking up, this really means a lot to me.

If its okay for you, may i ask how you managed to see the things in your life for how they are?