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  • April 5, 2019 at 10:40 pm in reply to: Am I Condescending or Are They Insecure? #287857
    Danny
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    Ashley,

    your question “am I condescending or are they insecure” leads me to believe that you’re not mindful of your own behavior. The fact that you’re worry to be accepted by this group should lead you to question why you have this need to be accepted. Are you married? Do you have close relationships?

    You have been asked by two people serious questions about self reflection, but you’ve dismissed them. If you’re serious about understanding who you are, you need to focus on yourself, not on what others think of you.

    I invite you to listen to Ajahn Brahms talk on YT called Changing our attitude to who we think we are.

    good luck and I hope you embark on the journey to discover yourself.

     

     

     

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    March 19, 2019 at 11:32 am in reply to: The return of a narcissit #285339
    Danny
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    Hi B,

    There’s a feeling of wanting to move on and grow from your last post. You wrote “I hope one day I will just be free mind body and soul of anything to do with him.” The good news is that you can, however, there’s effort and training required to slowly free yourself from any mental defilements that you are experiencing, which will help you navigate the troubles of life.

    You hear many people on here say that you need to let go and you’re attached. But I feel many don’t understand what exactly that means. I’d like to invite you to take a step and listen to a talk on YT from a monk, Ajahn Brahm titled “How to deal with abusive relationships.” Keep an open mind when you hear this. Also I hope you take the steps to learn about yourself, because the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. If you cannot have one with yourself, how will you with someone else.

     

    good luck

    March 14, 2019 at 5:15 pm in reply to: The return of a narcissit #284667
    Danny
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    Hi B,

    Maybe you need to focus on why you would allow someone to treat you as an option. Instead of focusing on trying to understand him you should take the time to understand yourself. Why would you let someone who cheats and lies return back to your life? What is it about you that makes you crave the attention from someone who discards you. You will learn a lot more and hopefully find some wisdom by focusing on yourself, rather than trying to understand the actions of your ex.

    Good luck

     

    January 27, 2019 at 8:19 pm in reply to: What is the point in staying alive, when you're suffering so much? #277289
    Danny
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    Hi Roary,

    You’ve reached an important step in what I hope will be a journey of self discovery. You have reached the first step of understanding that life is suffering. The Buddha pointed this out in the four noble truths.

    Life is suffering is the first

    theres  reason for this suffering

    there’s a solution to this suffering

    The solution to suffering is the eightfold path.

    I hope you take the time to research this and look for more insights into your suffering. I have followed this blog for years and although it’s contributing members give good personal advice, I have yet to see anyone point to the teachings of the Buddha.

    May you have the will to do the work to end your suffering.

     

     

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