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  • January 17, 2019 at 1:51 pm #275239
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    Yanky ,  Thank you I would dearly love him to be innocent but he must of been aware of the persons age that he was meeting for the police to then arrest him  and charge him?  He had the intent to commit a crime… It seems an incredibly stupid thing to do unless he was sure he wouldn’t get caught and sadly he just can’t help himself.

    January 17, 2019 at 8:58 am #275135
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    Sofioula Thankyou I found your thoughts very interesting and spiritual I am a very deep thinker myself.

    For me to say this man caused me nothing but pain isn’t of course the whole picture I would never tolerate such a person , I think everyone we meet can teach us a life lesson he was actually the kindest , most caring man I have met since I started dating again.

    It just to show how you sometimes never really know a person and to be very wary of people who paint themselves as victims. He once told me the at he could not bear to look at himself in mirror as he hated himself so much.  This troubled me and I did wonder what had happened in his life that had made him say that.

    He is really a broken shell of a man and I had told him before that I found his unhappiness overwhelming.

    He lives in his own private hell so I cannot bring myself to hate him for the hurt he has caused me.

    January 17, 2019 at 8:32 am #275117
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    Anita I haven’t sent the text yet I

    know I will have to choose my words very carefully,  I haven’t seen him for nearly a week now so that makes it easier.

    He messaged me last night to tell me he has been a year sober & I said well done I hope you continue on that path to recovery.

    January 16, 2019 at 11:53 am #274985
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    Hi everyone,  Thank you for all your thoughts which I have taken on board.  So a few more days have passed I feel I needed to distance myself from him ,  even the thought of seeing him again makes me feel sick.  I have decided to break things off via text message later this evening .  I want him out of my life he has brought me nothing but pain,  triggered my own feelings of anxiety & depression.

    I wanted to help him and yes Mark I have been thinking about why I always feel the need to help people & put them before myself.

    Yes Anita , I agree meeting him would solve nothing I have no way of knowing if he is lying and indeed what else he could be lying about.

    Thank you Brandy & Anne for your concern.

    January 15, 2019 at 8:09 am #274677
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    Hi , thank you both for replying to me it is much appreciated .  Mark to answer your questions no, I am not attracted to men with such serious issues but I am aware that these men may be attracted to me? I can definitely see where you are coming from,  I have only had 3 relationships( counting this one) I had a mostly happy long term relationship , then I got into a more toxic relationship he had issues with alcohol he could be cold & indifferent.    I finally ended things but it still went on far too long.

    I guess posted on here because I feel lost and alone at times even though I have good friends and family I could never confide in them about what I discovered about this current guy.

    GL Thank you so much for trying to understand !  I have had another day to think about what to do and whether I should even mention this to him or just end things amicably  I think for my peace of mind I need to find out what on earth he was doing ? Really he has ruined his entire life & his mental health because of this action?  I just do not want him to have suicidal thoughts when he seems to be in recovery now.

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