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  • in reply to: I love him but I feel like I'm settling #280579
    Felix
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    Wow, this is why I am staying single…. I feel bad for your BF. He sounds like amazing guy. And I’ll avoid the shaming that happens in such cases on replies. You “Deserve” ? No one deserves anything. If you are happy then stay with him, if you love him then be with him, but if you think the grass is greener somewhere else, I have a kitchen sink to sell you. You’re reducing your BF to someone you can put a number on. He is a 5 and you want a 7 or even an 8. Hypergamy in full action here. I think you should leave him, he deserves better than you. Good luck.

    in reply to: Really, tough times #223141
    Felix
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    I am not a loser in any world. I am loser inside my head. I am simply trying to find the strength to go on. I can make my life how I want it to be, but I can’t find the strength because of my loneliness and self esteem issues. Doesn’t mean I am not doing anything about it. I’ve lost weight, getting seriously on shape, living a health life, having an amazing job, traveling for work and being able to see beautiful places…. I just feel the pain inside and I don’t know what to do with it. I feel like I lost so much that I am far too deep down the well to be able to climb out of it.

    Pink, I don’t care about money, superficial things, or the materialist society that’s solely based on consumerism. I am actually a minimalist and don’t need much to be happy. In fact, I don’t need anything, but somewhere to live, something to drive, my dog, my health, my job, someone to love perhaps. The problem is that it’s my past that’s haunting me. The credit debt and the school loans and while I reduced my living expenses to the bare minimum, I am paying almost 50% of my waves towards paying off credit as soon as humanly possible. Once, if ever, I pay off the debt, I will be able to live again. By then I’ll be an old fart = ))

    And I am thinking about moving outside of LA, but that’s not going to make much of a difference. I am not concerned about the cost of living in LA as much as the social scene. I know it’s easier to say that not everyone is like that, but I’ve lived in LA fore almost 30 years. I know the real LA. Of course, not everyone is superficial or only wants money, but let’s not kid ourselves here. Truth and facts are important, and the truth is that women in LA want money…. I am not looking for supermodels, just regular women… But there is no such thing here. If a woman is even a little bit attractive here, it’s over for the guys. And I can’t force myself to date someone I am not attracted to.

    I wouldn’t worry about debt or darting or anything, but the real world isn’t free and dating isn’t cheap. I am looking for 2nd and 3rd jobs right now. If I didn’t have my doggy (and I wouldn’t trade anything for spending time with him), I wold be doing Uber ad Lyft and everything else… And I make very good money. That’s just freaking sad.

    in reply to: Really, tough times #222385
    Felix
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    Thank you. I completely understand what you’re saying and I am def taking care of my self.. I just have this broken feeling inside… I obviously still love my ex… She was my everything. but that’s over and done with… I always say that if I was 30, I would be the happiest person in the world, but this whole 40 thing has got me tripping. I am working VERY HARD on improving my life…. I am going to be in shape and have a great job and all those things, but I also see that my time is running out.

    I am big follower of the Red Pill movement.. Not to go into that now, but basically says that women marry up.. and that’s a fact of life. I am not sure I am good enough for women these days. I am not being pessimistic or anything. This is reality. Most women that I am attracted to ( And I am not looking for some super model. I like regular looking woman with good souls, that’s all ) don’t see me… I remember always meeting girls, always having flings or something.. But right now, I am like all alone.. All friends are married, all women are taken, and going on Tinder or POF, is a freaking joke… Hypergamy – Women Marry Up…. It’s a fact of life. There is a whole movement online for men being left behind by society.. and while I am not that pathetic and I don’t hate women, there is major resentment because I see how most of my friends who are married are married to women on certain appearance and the higher the income, the prettier the women….. and while I am a good looking guy, always were able to meet women, I am not marriage material because I don’t have that house or a large savings account and can’t take them on a vacation around the world… I live in the real world, even if that doesn’t sound all that pretty.

     

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